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BlueBelle Fri 20-Aug-21 05:37:22

Send it back to her if she is really that bad

I don’t understand what you mean by return receipt
requested ?
If you really feel you have no relationship with your mother and don’t really want one then I d stop the contact altogether If none of your family bother with you stop bothering with them
Do you have your own family, you speak of a daughter do you have a partner /husband other children ? I d concentrate on them and get on with your own friends and family and move on in your heart and your head you don’t need this constant criticism it will just bring you down
Good luck

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freedomfromthepast Fri 20-Aug-21 05:32:12

I am so sorry you are here, but welcome.

You ask what to do with the card? If it were me I would toss it, unopened and unread. Doing so lets you take back some power. You cant stop her from sending them, but you do not have to subject yourself to her abusive words by reading them

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Kaboom6686 Fri 20-Aug-21 03:59:21

Kaboom6686

I have been reading. It’s so comforting to know I’m not alone. I have been estranged from my mother on and off my adult life. This last time has been going on 3 years. Each year at my birthday I get a card with a long written letter inside. At times she has sent this card with return receipt requested. Boy did that upset me. But the content of the card was worse. I have a stack of cards which she tells me what a disappointment of a daughter I am. So last year I never opened the card. The last time I spoke with her she asked me if I received my birthday card. I simply said yes. She asked if I read it. I said no. I told her I didn’t need to read how disappointed she was in me. I’m not even sure where last years card is. So I received a card this year. No call, no text no emails from the rest of the family. My youngest brother moved to AZ. I have no phone number or address for him. I heard about it from my daughter who heard from my oldest brother.

Anyway, what do I do with the unopened card I received from a mother I don’t really have a relationship with.

Thank for reading

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