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Do you send gifts to GC when estranged

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sodapop Sun 10-Oct-21 08:36:32

Whatever the problems with your son and partner your grandchildren should not suffer because of it Sheian. They need to know you love them and you need to keep them in your life.
Send them whatever gifts you would normally send, they are too young for money something tangible is better. I hope you can resolve the problems with their parents.

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Grammaretto Sun 10-Oct-21 08:35:07

I don't have any answers for you but having read, I wanted to reply.
My advice is to follow your heart.
Forget about the adults' behaviour, which all sounds horrible and think about the DGC whom you love.

I hope you are all reconciled but on a better footing without the hurt and cruelty. Life is too short.

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Hetty58 Sun 10-Oct-21 08:34:35

Of course I'd still buy the usual birthday presents for the children! It might be vouchers or money if I had no idea of what they'd like. The estrangement situation isn't their choice so they shouldn't suffer because of it - your son needs to recognise that - and maybe grow up a little?

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Sheian62 Sun 10-Oct-21 08:27:03

Hi, We would like to give a money gift/card to our upcoming GD birthdays however we have been estranged from our son and his partner and our 2 young grandchildren for the past 3 months. The youngest will be 1, the oldest 5. There were 2 reasons for estrangement:
1. I showed photographs to my 4 year old GD of her new cousin 3 months old. My son disapproved as he is estranged from our daughter following exchanges between them of nasty cruel texts. They have been estranged 6 years. He wants us to back him and have nothing to do with our daughter. I told him I have 3 children and 3 GC and love them all and am going to make sure they are all aware of the other when asked in my house. Son doesn’t like that.
2. Son and partner had arranged a night out. We were due to babysit offering to have children from 4 on Saturday and return them around 10:00 on Sunday. We were accused of depriving them of a lie-in!
Upto point of estrangement we have supported them by having our eldest GD one day per week for 4 1/2 years, babysat in their house, had GC at ours overnight, helped them financially to £thousands, taken them on holidays your expense.

I was hoping that things would have calmed by now. We have been excluded from FB and deprived of communicating with our GDs which is upsetting, particularly as eldest started school recently.

Would you buy gifts or try and send money or any advice going forward would be appreciated. X

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