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Estrangement

Friendship,advice and support if estrangement has affected your life.

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Whiff Sat 29-Jan-22 04:32:33

This thread is for parents and grandparents who have been estranged by their children and / or grandchildren. Parents and grandparents that looks like they will be estranged by their children and / or grandchildren. Also parents and grandparents that have reconciled with their children and/or grandchildren.

But anyone who has any insight into estrangement that can offer friendship,advice, support and understanding are welcome.

Whiff Sun 08-May-22 22:33:02

PetitFromage belated happy birthday for the 2nd. ?.

Hugshelp what is the title of the analogy of short stories? You rightly should feel proud of your achievement. When having your home photographed remember people are looking for a home not a show home. I left my books by my seat and didn't hide away my cross stitch. People like to see it tidy but a place they can relax in and make their own. When I had my old house photographed as he did each room he got me to check I was happy with the photo before moving on to the next one.

Smiles Mr S is a romantic at heart. I would have cried to at those lovely words. I know I have done right by my son but I will still be waiting tomorrow to see if he sends the letter back . Not rational I know.

hugshelp Sun 08-May-22 21:45:59

That's tomorrow not today for the photos. Tired out again sigh...

hugshelp Sun 08-May-22 21:45:12

Hugs Yogin flowers.

What a beautiful message smiles.

Last-minute titivating done and the EA is coming to do the photos today.

I got a lovely anthology of short stories yesterday, which included a piece by yours truly. Feels really quite exciting seeing your own work in print. I've started reading the other stories while I put my feet up for lunch. The ones I've read so far are really good.

Smileless2012 Sun 08-May-22 18:01:26

Wow, 3 bulls on the same thread and no falling out!!grin.

A difficult day for you Yoginflowers, it's difficult to imagine them that age when the last time we saw them they were so littlesad. Hope this (((hug))) helps, just a little.

Easier said than done I know, but try not to dwell on the letter Whiff. You've done what any loving mother and GM would do, so the rest is up to him now.

Thanks for all the birthday wishes. Got some beautiful flowers from DS and a card that read "I know I often forget the important dates and send things late, but I never forget how much you mean to me" yes you've guessed it; I cried.

Good to know you're keeping busy DSL.

Bridie22 Sun 08-May-22 14:28:58

Yogin ??

Whiff Sun 08-May-22 09:14:33

Yogin ? .

Madgran77 Sun 08-May-22 07:33:52

Yogin flowers

DerbyshireLass Sun 08-May-22 07:12:23

Sending you hugs and ?

Yoginimeisje Sun 08-May-22 07:01:48

Happy birthday to my dear little granddaughter Laila cupcake
12yrs today, 10yrs since I have been allowed to see her sad

PetitFromage Sat 07-May-22 19:15:52

I asked my French estate agent to recommend a notaire the other day and, because I didn't check the email, I asked her for a 'Hotwire' ! grin

PetitFromage Sat 07-May-22 19:14:12

I meant 'so we' are fellow Taureans - wretched autocue grin

PetitFromage Sat 07-May-22 19:13:13

A belated Happy Birthday [Smileless]!flowers And also to Whiff. Mine was the 2nd May, some are fellow Taureans! XX

DerbyshireLass Sat 07-May-22 10:51:24

Thinking of you Whiff. Get out there and enjoy your garden.

I feel sure he will open your letter. You have made it plain it's a matter of some importance. If not just keep sending it back with ever more "urgent" messages written on the envelope.

I'm sure that, even in his spite and animosity towards you, he would not jeopardise either his own or his children's health and well-being.

You are not interfering or stalking. You are simply passing on vital information which may or may not impact him at some point in the future. It's in his own interests. He should be grateful of the care and solicitude you still continue to show him.

All is well here. Busy, busy, busy. ?

Whiff Sat 07-May-22 10:00:39

Going into the garden as I feel on edge waiting to see if my son returns my letter unopened. Why am I letting it get to me I thought I was stronger than this . It's annoying that he can make me feel this way.

Well if he does I will just send it back. He may not care about his and my grandson's health but I do.

Enough of this going to take my mood out on the garden.

Hope you all have a good day.

Allsorts Sat 07-May-22 07:20:02

Belated happy birthday Smileless. Missed the last day and a half as not been well. It sounds as if you had a good birthday.
Whiff, I am sure your son will acknowledge your letter, he has a big decision to make. I don't know what I would do. ,Bet your shopping trip ended with you buying a plant. Hugshelp, despite all the hard work it must be a nice feeling decluttered going, I keep things just in case.

hugshelp Fri 06-May-22 18:20:20

What a lovely gift Whiff. I hope your son has the good sense to read your letter.
Hugs Whiff Hope your little outing cheers you up.

Happy Birthday, smiles. wine cupcake flowers

Last carload went to the charity shop today. Got a carload to take to our DD tomorrow - gave her and her partner first refusal on everything as they are getting ready to upsize while we downsize. Uber tired but there's light at the end of the tunnel with the prep now.

Madgran77 Fri 06-May-22 16:30:56

Whiff flowers

Yoginimeisje Fri 06-May-22 09:38:57

Whiff flowers enjoy your day out with your DD&GC xx

Whiff Fri 06-May-22 09:04:36

Had a rough night which is unusual for me. My son should get the letter today as the post is quick here. Just wait and see if it comes back if it does will just send it again with a big read it urgent on it.

I didn't say anything about my heart as he knew I was waiting for a bubble echo as the echo showed a problem when he decided to dump me.

I think I am ok then it hits me. Luckily my daughter text earlier and asked if I want to go too B&Q with them so off out soon. It upsets her when I get upset so I try not when we are together . Luckily my grandson's are guaranteed to make me laugh.

Have a good day everyone.

Yoginimeisje Fri 06-May-22 08:54:01

Well you've done right by your S&GSs sending details of your health Whiff you can do no more. Lovely knitted doll. I had some made like that in the likeness of my estGC, they're about 2ft high.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Smiles cupcake wine flowers enjoy your birthday meal today. I have a lovely Buddha which you put scented wax in & has lovely lights glowing, my DD bought me for Xmas & some friends bought me a lovely multicoloured glass globe one, I love them.

Madgran77 Fri 06-May-22 07:03:38

Whiff wise to send text explaining letter. I hope he doesn't just return it for his and his children's sake. flowers

Happy Birthday Smileless

Spring20 Thu 05-May-22 23:04:18

Happy birthday Smiles from me too! Hope it’s been a lovely day ?

DerbyshireLass Thu 05-May-22 21:06:10

Happy Birthday Smiles ???. Hope you've had a lovely day. ❤️

Whiff Thu 05-May-22 18:29:35

Happy birthday Smiles. ???

Bridie22 Thu 05-May-22 18:28:57

Hope you have enjoyed your birthday smileless ??

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