Hello all,
When my Mum died 22 years ago I stopped contact with my Dad, brother and SIL as I disagreed with the way all of them had treated her both in life and after her death.
My parents were divorced in 1977, and my Dad remarried, but they had remained friends. He is now widowed and moved a few doors down from my brother and SIL two years ago. Apparently my SIL cleans for him, I assume she is now his main carer.
I did write and forgive my Dad and brother around 2002, but didn't want to have any contact with them again, they live by a different moral code.
When my husband died six years ago my Dad made contact again, just birthday and Christmas cards. He wrote a strange letter last autumn saying he'd like 'more than one letter' from me a year (he is now 89, 90 in August), so I wrote back. I was going to write again at Christmas, but my roof disaster happened, so I've only just written again.
I have one aunt aged 84 on the IOW, my late Mum's sister. She continues to see my brother and SIL, as well as my Dad, occasionally. My brother and SIL turned up on Monday out of the blue, saying they'd made a resolution to 'see more of her'.
During the conversation they talked to my aunt about the contents of my letter to my Dad.
I don't want them to know my business, and feel very uncomfortable about it. I don't know if my Dad left it out and my SIL read it, or he asked her to read it to him because he can no longer see.
I can't see a way around this. I don't have his phone number, he doesn't have an email address, I only have letters as a form of communication.
What would you do?
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