Drug abuse

If he is a drug addict, that controls his every move, they will do and say anything to feed their habit. It is not you that made him take drugs. Until he makes the effort to stop, no one or anything will persuade him otherwise, the only thing you can do is tell him, “you love him but not his lifestyle, you can’t risk him in your home until he’s clean.” It’s the only way, concentrate on those that are close to you or you will be sucked down into a place you don’t want to be. I am so sorry this has happened to him but it’s so rife now and easily available and they get drawn into that world,

Thank you everyone. Of course you are right. I couldn't see it I kept blaming myself. Thank you x

If he's an addict, there probably won't be much positive until/if he stops taking drugs.

All you can do is to get on with life, let him get on with it, and hope that, one day, he will make sensible life choices.

Best wishes.

Undoubtedly Socksandsocks. Weed which many think of as a recreational drug can result in paranoia when used on a regular basis.

You did what any mother would have done, thought about the safety of your other adult child when deciding whether or not to allow your son to move back in.

There isn't a perfect parent anywhere in the world and there never has been. Addiction is a terrible thing and only the addict can do something about it; accept they have an addiction and ask for help.

I hope one day your son will do both and you'll be able to rebuild your relationship .

Your son is an addict by your own words and you cannot expect him to be rational. You’ve done what you needed to do for your own peace of mind. Its not easy dealing with an addict family member but he is in the grip of something and his behaviour is all directed to allow him to continue his way of life. Perhaps one day he will wake up to how he’s behaved and get help. I wish you well and some peace.