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Estrangement sucks

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MissAdventure Tue 18-Oct-22 22:32:39

Well, it's not unheard of for parents to have unreasonable expectations of their darling offspring's partners.

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Casdon Tue 18-Oct-22 22:29:45

I think this is a troll post.

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Mandrake Tue 18-Oct-22 22:27:39

Why do you hate her? She's asked how you are (caring), given you updates on the kids (included you - note: your son didn't do this, she did), she's reached out to connect with you in person (has your son?). It sounds like she's made a good effort that hasn't been reciprocated because you only want a relationship with your son. Good on your son for not allowing you to exclude the closest person in his life. As for the DIL, she can rest easy knowing she has tried.

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crazyH Tue 18-Oct-22 21:45:29

Don’t you and your wife want to see your grandchildren? No wonder your wife is depressed. She seems to be very ‘hard-hearted’. On the other hand, your ‘hated’ d.I.l. seems to be a lovely girl. Your son is a very lucky boy.

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Sara1954 Tue 18-Oct-22 21:28:47

I agree as well, if I was the vile daughter in law I would give up on you both.

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Hithere Tue 18-Oct-22 21:24:45

Olive branch was extended so many times from the hated dil

I agree with other posters you chose to estrange

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Norah Tue 18-Oct-22 20:37:44

Seems you and your wife chose estrangement.

Everyone has choices, some choose as you, not sure the purpose of your post. Perhaps more explanation would help.

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Farmor15 Tue 18-Oct-22 20:04:09

Agree with MissAdventure. Looks like "hated" dil has made various attempts to make contact, so it doesn't seem to be her fault.

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MissAdventure Tue 18-Oct-22 19:53:20

Well, every time hope has been in the horizon, you and your wife have dashed it by refusing to meet up.

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fishing4life Tue 18-Oct-22 19:51:25

My son has been estranged 15 years. He is married to a woman we hate and we have heard little from him since the estrangement started except once when he emailed us and said we were disrespecting his wife. She has disrespected us too.
She (his wife) will contact me a few times a year with updates on their kids and to see how we are. She reached out to my wife to make amends once but my wife replied that she would make amends with our son if he wanted but not her. It was just too painful.
Usually every summer his wife would email me to see if I wanted to get together. They live out of state so we usually met halfway. My son came once in like, 8 years. My wife hasn’t gone the last two years once she realized my son wasn’t coming. This summer, my wife was just overwhelmed with depression and other health issues and it upset her that I was going to meet DIL and kids. I love my wife so I told DIL to go no contact and I have not seen them in over a year. My wife would be willing to reconcile with our son if he would come back to her but it seems like it has been so long there is no hope left.

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