I am new here. I have been reading through threads and I think I might be on the other side of estrangement from many others on here. I hope other posters don’t mind. I imagine the estrangement experience is similar whichever side you are on.
I am estranged from my siblings and parents. It has been over 7 years since I spoke to my parents and just over two years since I stopped contact with the last remaining sibling I was in contact with.
On the face of it I am estranged because there was sexual abuse from a sibling growing up towards other siblings, including me and a huge rug sweep after but actually there was a significant amount of very narcissistic behaviour in the family not just from the abusing sibling but from my parents and another sibling too. A lot of grandiosity, delusions about what our family was like compared to the reality, perfectionism whereby I was not allowed to criticise in the slightest anything in the family, stonewalling, controlling, emotionally manipulative behaviour, cruelty, projection of their emotions and responsibility onto me, blaming me for others failings, inability to take responsibility for their actions.
When I called out the behaviour that I was experiencing I was stonewalled on all fronts. Letting go has been extremely difficult for me but the behaviour was seriously affecting my mental health and I genuinely wasn’t able to be effective in any other sphere of my life and be a part of what was going on.
The rug sweeping extended on to extended family which is pretty typical in these situations I guess but it has been very difficult to deal with that too.
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