I have been estranged from my second DS for over two years, shortly after my mum died. He also cut the rest of this side of the family out, including his two brothers and sister.
Up until about a year ago I still saw my DIL and 7yo DGS. But then my son decided that would happen no more, and I’ve not seen my DGS since.
I have another DGS who’s 3, who lives half the time with his dad, my eldest DS. I have a lovely relationship with him.
To add to the situation my former DIL (eldest DS ex) has recently moved in next to my estranged son and his family.
She commented to DS1 that it would be awkward but he said, it’s not, DB stopped speaking to us not the other way round.
I have just found out that EDS and his W are expecting their second baby. I’m so thrilled for them but I’m selfishly devastated for me, none of this side of the family will get to see either GC, son has also cut his dad out, though we’re not together.
It’s such a mess, I’ve not been able to sleep since finding out, I’m so sad. I thought I had come to terms with the estrangement but I obviously haven’t.
I wish my EDS all the peace in the world and hope he is happy obviously.
There have been over the years some very cruel words said to me (and family) by my EDS, and indeed some very poor behaviour and while I miss my son very much every day I don’t miss the abuse from him. Is there a way forward from this, it’s just brought it all up again and made me realise how much I’m missing out on by not seeing my DGS and now the new baby.
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