Gransnet forums

Estrangement

Page 3 of 3 | First | Previous | Next | Last
| Flip | Customise |

Help Please! Grandchild being taken to live abroad

(57 Posts)
Add comment | Report
BlueBelle Mon 02-Oct-23 11:39:37

She's happy with your son and you clearly dont like her PaddyAnne I think you ve read it wrongly

The poster actually says
and the relationship has been bad between her and my son for a long time

I agree with Maddy she can’t take the child abroad without the child’s father agreeing if he has equal parental rights but it’s not always cut and dried
I think your son needs to seek some advice in his own right you can support him and give him help if needed but it needs to be insisted by him
Good luck let us know how it goes

Add comment | Report
Callistemon21 Mon 02-Oct-23 11:37:19

I'm confused - are you trying to separate a small child from her mother?
Or is it your son who wants to gain custody?

The situation they are in at the moment is not ideal, all of you sharing a house, perhaps they might get on better if they could find somewhere for the three of them. It's up to your son to sort out, calmly if possible.

Add comment | Report
maddyone Mon 02-Oct-23 11:25:48

If your son has parental rights, which it sounds as though he does, as his child lives with him, then the child’s mother can’t take the child abroad without your son’s permission. It does depend on the parental responsibility situation though. If it goes to court, the judge won’t necessarily agree with you and your son, but they might. You can never tell which way a judgement will go.

Add comment | Report
paddyann54 Mon 02-Oct-23 11:21:20

I really think the child will be best with its mother and her family.She's not happy with your son and you clearly dont like her...so why would she stay? I'm fairly sure she'll be happier and more even tempered out of the situation she's in now.
The child is HER child ,you are only the GM and GP dont have rights so its up to your son to fight for his child IF thats what he wants.

Add comment | Report
March Mon 02-Oct-23 11:18:49

Is your son going with her? Id follow his lead and support him.

If she's definitely wanting to go id talk to my son and see if it's something they could trial?

Add comment | Report
Shelflife Mon 02-Oct-23 11:13:22

Tatti, my heart goes out to you , such a distressing situation.
I am not in a position to advice and have no experience of this , I feel sure someone on GN will be able to offer you advice and support. Thinking of you 💐

Add comment | Report
Tatti Mon 02-Oct-23 10:53:05

My 2 year old granddaughter & her mother (B) have been living with me, my son (J) and my partner for a year. B is not English and the relationship has been bad between her and my son for a long time, (she fell pregnant 6 weeks into the relationship and they have struggled as a couple).
She has just announced she is going to move to her family in Italy with the child. It is not a good setup for a child, she did this before and came back because it was so awful but now she says its for good.
I discovered that last time this happened my son paid for legal advise but in the end she still left without any custody agreement and she made visiting very difficult.
Can anybody tell me how to start the custody process? I've found a lot of conflicting information - some you pay, some you don't. My son recently lost his business and money is a problem which is why they've been staying with me.
We are heartbroken but feel completely powerless. B is a very difficult person to deal with and has a foul temper so we all walk on eggshells to keep life calm for my GD.
I will find some money if we need to but how do we navigate the system?
Thank you for reading this. I'm at work crying my eyes out!!!

Page 3 of 3 | First | Previous | Next | Last
| Flip | Customise |