Iam losing my mind! Just need some advice about my situation.
Me and my husband went No Contact around 10 years ago with his mom, sister’s and brother. His brother was not part of us going no contact. Our daughters were 21 and 23 and supported us, they understood why. They were on our side, and see what they put us through.
Until 2014 when my eldest daughter’s got married, she wanted her grandmother and uncle to be at her wedding. We were fine with it, but no special treatment with grandmother she is just a guest. In the last 6 years, my eldest daughter chose for her daughters to get to know her cousins, she is an adult it is up to her on who she invites into her children lives. She was respectful about not invited them to any family events.
A year ago our youngest daughter invited her auntie’s and her grandmother to her wedding. My husband found out 2 weeks before they were invited, he hasn’t seen his sister’s in 10 years. So he refused to go! I understand why he didn’t go, there is so much angry and hate towards them, he was afraid he would say something and altercation would occur. My husband is so hurt, bey our daughter pick them over him, she was the one who chose his side, and was no contact with for 6 years.
So now, it has been a year, my daughters are refusing to talk to their dad, and we have 6 grandchildren, 2 of them he hasnt even met. The grandchildren are not allowed at our place, he isn’t invited to family events, but my in-laws are. My daughters are inviting them back into their lives. Repeatedly told them not to invite them to any family events, they won’t listen. I will show up, my anxiety is so high, I really hate my in-laws. They haven’t tried to contact us, say they are sorry!
My mother in law is a narcissist and pretty sure she is using my daughters as her narcissist supply.
My daughters blame us so them not being apart of their lives. They will only talk to their dad after he goes to therapy.
I am confused, do know what do!
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