A bad day

You haven't gone wrong anywhere, certainly no more than the rest of us. We aren't perfect.
There is every point in carrying on, if only for the sake of your son and his children. And your son understands the situation and does not blame you for the estrangement at all, so don't keep blaming yourself.
I do hope your DD sees how hurtful this is for you and that you will be reconciled very soon.
Meanwhile, try to find something that makes you happier today. The sun is shining, the birds are singing. A walk in the fresh air can lift our spirits.
Sending you heartfelt good wishes.

Sallywally1
You’ve had some lovely replies and advice. Another day is here and I hope you’re feeling better this morning. You have a lot to be thankful for. I hope the sun comes up and makes this a brighter day for all of us !

sit with the pain and do lots of deep breaths.. It will pass and you will find resilience again..

You must feel at a loss because of the situation you are in regarding your daughter. I can’t even imagine what you have been going through but I know it must have been dreadful.

Our lives are consumed with our children growing up we want only the best for them as parents. We just want them to be happy and we want to grow with them and their families.

Good friends of ours have not seen their daughter for over twenty years and to this day don’t know why. They rarely talk about her now it’s sad but it’s how they have coped with it.

You have your DH your DS and his family who you see and love and that’s wonderful. Hold on this it’s what life is worth living for you are loved by them. Just imagine how they would feel without you so don’t lose heart you are having a bad day. You have had plenty of those days and got through them and you will get through this 💐

Hi sallywally1, I empathise with your situation and just wanted to say that you will get through another day / weekend albeit with a deep sadness and longing in your heart. x

Hello Sally. Estrangement is often described as a living bereavement as we grieve for those still living, who are no longer a part of our lives.

My heart goes out to you. We've been estranged from our youngest son and only GC for 11.5 years, and there are still times when the pain and grief is overwhelming.

Cast your mind back 10 years when this first happened, when you'd have felt that you simply couldn't go on because the pain was so great. You did and you've carried on doing so, so you can do so today.

Your DH being away for the weekend will be making this so much harder but he'll be back. If you're not seeing your DS and GC over the weekend, focus on when you will be seeing them again and look forward to the sheer joy you'll experience when you do.

If you can, find things that will occupy your time and mind to help you get through today. Do whatever you need to do and if that means staying in and having a good cry then do it. Whatever gets you through is all that matters and you will get through this, you've been doing so for 10 years so you can do so today.

Take a look at the support thread on this forum and maybe pop on there. All the regulars live with estrangement and it can really help to know you are not alone .

Sending you a big hug. I am so sorry things are difficult. Be kind to yourself. You have a son and grandchildren to enjoy. Some days it is hard to be positive about the good things you have the negative takes over sadly. I find a walk in the countryside helps followed by escaping to reading a good book. 💐

Please be kind to yourself. You have a son and grandchildren who are ‘the light of your life’ and I’m sure they love you very much.
No one is perfect, but can only try to be our best. I hope the sun manages to shine at some point for you today.
💐