Guardian article - i never want you around your grandchild

We all have moments we regret bringing up our children. It must have been pretty bad for the child to ostracise her mother. I once lost it with one of mine and mentioned it years later to her. She couldn’t remember the incident at all. Funny things, memories.

Also, if she can "think of one occasion", than dollars to doughnuts her daughter can think of multiple occasions.

The axe forgets but the tree remembers.

"Whenever I’d read stories about estrangement, I’d think, ‘But you must have done something,’ says Caroline, a gently spoken professional woman from the north of England, over the phone. But that was before one of her own adult children stopped talking to her."

"her daughter burst into tears and said she was struggling to reconcile the mother she had now with “how horrible you were” when she was little."

"there are things I (Caroline) regret. I can think of one occasion when I lost my temper and I wish I hadn’t."

It's interesting how she thinks the past isn't relevant, and that she hasn't "done something" to end up estranged. Oh well.

Agree Allsorts.

Some children have to go no contact, I understand that. It’s very complicated. Every situation is different. No one should have to put up with abuse or made to feel worthless. Neither should loving parents be just discarded.

Thanks for sharing. Is an interesting read and useful for those whose experiences are similar to those mentioned in the piece.