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Pinkpeony1 Good morning!

I have no advice other than if you want to moan, rant, get angry, explode, let it all out, there's lug'oles listening and sympathizing!

Welcome to GN, we're a good bunch of cucumbers here!

Hello Pinkpeony and a warm welcome to GN.

9 months isn't very long so you need to be kind to yourself. It takes time to let go and accept that the 'phone call, text message, email or even a knock on the door isn't going to happen. It may of course but in the meantime, as hard as it is and believe me I know, you have a life to live and although it wont feel like it at the moment, there is life after estrangement.

You can't 'pull yourself together' and in my experience (we've been estranged for 12.5 years) the harder you try, the less likely you are to succeed.

You've taken the first step by deciding to stop reaching out. Doing so when you receive nothing in return is a thankless task which only increases the heart break you're already going through.

You're not alone Pinkpeony; this happens to so many which is why there's a forum here on GN for estrangement, and here you will find others who know precisely how you're feeling and what you're going through, because we've been there too .

Hi Pinkpeony & welcome. ☺
I have only been on Gransnet for about 5 months or so but I can honestly say that I love being part of this forum.
There's always something to discuss & everyone is wonderfully opinionated!!!!
We might lock horns on the various points & topics of discussion but that just adds to the joy & variety of the mix. 👍✋😊🌝👋

I would strongly recommend getting yourself into some sort of counselling where you can speak freely and allow all of your pain to come out in a safe environment. It really does help, as much as we have friends and family, or support groups who are here for us, it is important to make some sort of progress towards an emotional resolution. In other words, treading the same water will not get you very far, you must learn to swim.

Hi, i haven't been on here in ages. I find myself on the edge of everything these days. I am guessing it is not normal. Turing 70 Oct. Not happy.

Welcome Pinkpeony - you are certainly not alone. I had a few narrow escapes with my daughter and middle son. Everything is fine now. I was/ am divorced, so the things that were said and done were extremely hurtful.
Give it time - while there’s life, there’s hope. Enjoy and appreciate the people in your life and remember, miracles do happen. Good luck

I don’t have any advice/suggestions, but I do welcome you and wish you luck

Maybe some mindfulness training would help? You can find a qualified therapist in your area via the BACP ( British Assoc. for Counselling & Psychotherapy) website.