NiceDream
Well I am glad I responded politely anyway.
Diamondlily it was life changing for me. The abuse done to me as a child had left me with very poor mental health and a lot of anxiety. It means a great deal to me to not feel bad about myself. Not have my mother's voice in my head. A lot of therapists really do change lives for the better.
Well, it worked for you, so all good. 👍. Whether it’s bereavement or family traumas, we all have to find our own way.
I’m involved with a man (my age) who had an appallingly bad childhood - parental neglect, physical abuse, mental abuse and ended up, in his teen years, with malnutrition.. The parents drank and gambled excessively and had no idea how to look after their kids. In those days, schools etc didn’t get involved.
He, on his own, left home at 16, and rented a room. He put himself through college, while working outside those hours, and started a new life.
He estranged his mother and father. He kept in touch with his siblings.
He met a girl and was happily married to her for 47 years until she died. He built a very successful career, had a good life, and bought up two lovely kids, who love him to bits.
All without help.
His siblings, however, have made a hash of their lives - prison, no careers, divorces, endless problems. 🙄
After his father had died, his mother, curiously, asked him for help with organising her life. Which he did. He didn’t love her, but he helped her.
We all do things our own way.
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