Just read an article in the Guardian about adult children who choose to go ‘low contact’ with a parent - usually their mother. While that’s up to them the whole arrogance of the article riled me because it was so one-sided.
My daughter likes to see us once a week at a time suitable to her, but what she doesn’t realise is that suits me down to the ground because it’s about all I can take of her. Don’t get me wrong I do love her but I leave these ‘sessions’ feeling like a lesser person. I was a research scientist before I retired. But she seems to forget that I had a varied and interesting life and she’s now dealing with an old, lesser woman.
I’ve learned to say as little as possible during our visits. I’d happily go low contact with her.
With my son it’s a completely different scenario. Our discussions can wander far and deep and we exchange ideas like adults.
