Social media

Meta now has Teen Accounts for those aged 13-17 that are set to protective Teen Account settings which by default restrict friend requests.

Settings can be changed but parent and teenager enter into an agreement over what these are, what the teen can and can't do including who they are allowed to befriend and communicate with.

Parents will receive a push notification if their teen changes any of these settings.

In other words, don't try to do this without the mother's consent or you could make a bad situation worse.

I would say that this depends on your relationship with your son's wife. Would she see this as you going behind her back or would she like the children to continue a relationship with you?

So sad Morrisminor
I don’t think it’s a crime to ‘friend-request’ someone on FB.
Try it and I wish you luck.