Today on BBC - does anyone know the mum?

Shelflife

Watering down orange juice - for goodness sake !!! Does your AC think that is abuse !? You were probably correct orange juice definitely raises blood sugar.

Jeez, I watered down orange juice with the kids and GC’s.🤷‍♀️

So, I’m now an abuser?

Who knew? 😂

Seriously, it’s alarming that younger people take advice from others, like this. 🙄

I agree Iam and you're right valdavi that the BBC should have stated where he gained his 'qualifications'.

There’s a huge difference between on line courses and those accredited and taught in person at universities.

Lathyrus3

Just had to do a little Googling. His qualifications appear to come from

MMS World Wide Institute based in New York.

Dr Cherie will guide you through all the steps you need to become an accredited Coach.

I do think the BBC should have done this and perhaps added that the diplomas were from a distance learning centre.

I agree InRainbows. Look at the so called grooming gang victims and the Epstein files

It's always going to be difficult for survivors of any kind of abuse when there are those who will lie about it. It's a rare thing to lie about but not rare enough to do no damage and allow doubt. I think we have to take the stories at face value unless we see inconsistencies or evidence of wrongdoing on their part though because it is so very dangerous for victims if we don't.

InRainbows, yes, some abusive parents are adept at lying and blaming their victims. The same goes for some adult children, even a small number of adolescents. It’s usually clear when allegations are made there is truth in them but the occasional fantasist can cause havoc. Parental alienation therapists……

I am not sure we can say much against the young man in the article. It's very difficult to judge when an abusive person, parent or otherwise, is never going to tell the truth. Sometimes there are clues because of differences in what an abusive person seems acceptable but they all lie to cover it up. Very hard to unravel.

Sago The young man himself is an author and qualified counsellor, it is probably unfair to refer to him as an influencer. He has Instagram/Facebook/TikTok accounts so is easily contactable.

Obviously there are two sides to every story

Always two sides, I agree.

Orange juice bit is a daft excuse -- or maybe I abuse?

I think mum is well shot of him.

Sago, I’m so sorry you had such A tough time. Many abusive parents are ace manipulators

Ahh, I did wonder if the now deleted poster had a familiar take on estrangement

I don’t feel it helps to make your living by blaming your mum for everything

It is very immature, Iam64.

Looks like it was a previously banned poster BlueBelle. Someone just keeps coming back and may well have broken their own record for deletions.

I ve only just read this thread and I m now really curious as to how someone can have so many posts deleted, 13 posts in one thread, is that a record ?

I'd be looking for more than a Diploma in Psychology and CBT in an 'expert' on estrangement and I agree Iam that it isn't helpful to make a living out of blaming your mum for everything, even if it does pay the bills.

I wish as a young adult there had been as much awareness around toxicity, NPD, BPDO and abuse as there is now.

Had I been able to talk openly without shame and to be believed would have made a huge difference to me.

I lived in a house were everyone hated me, I was permanently frightened and I really thought it was all my fault.

When a GP flagged up my weight, my Mother told him I was to spoilt and a picky eater,
Nowadays further action would be taken.

If this young man is drawing on his own experience to create awareness and help people then great.

Yes there will be attention seekers who will fabricate stories but I reckon he will have given hope and guidance to many.

The man referred to in the OP is thirty, has four children and his academic qualifications are described as Diploma in Psychology and CBT.

He set himself up as an expert on estrangement. I’d be looking for a therapist with better recognised qualifications and wider knowledge base. The article refers to him as an influencer.

One of my extended family had what can be described as a difficult childhood. Abandoned by dad, mum with huge difficulties, lots of upheavals, broken attachments and more. They are now a joiner aged thirty, recently married to long term partner. Recently when reflecting on childhood, they commented - I used to wonder why they (parents) did these things. Growing older means I recognise they loved me, did the best they could.

Not a therapist but a young person maturing into a stable, sensible, compassionate adult. I don’t feel it helps to make your living by blaming your mum for everything

Lathyrus3

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For Cossy.

I really don’t know what else to post 😱🙁

I don't know what to say either Cossy, but have some from me too.

What an appalling post.

Oh the naivety, banned posters come back under a new name........and I didn't say you were a previously banned poster only that I'd seen this style of posting before in posters that had been banned.
What's that old saying "if the cap fits....."

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For Cossy.

I really don’t know what else to post 😱🙁

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NoNews

Rosie51

What an absolutely vile post NoNews! You should be ashamed of yourself, but in your certainty of your own perfection you won't have the necessary awareness.

Everything I said is true. Especially anxiety + depression, those rarely materialize out of thin air. Just do the research.

But I can see how my words can be considered vile to an ignoramus.

I've seen this style of posting before in posters that have been banned..............

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You may want to report the post cossy but I hope enough people read it to make their own judgement on what appears to be a very new poster.

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