Forums for estranged adult children

I think it must be a very complex issue that can’t be dealt with sufficiently by going on forums and saying awful things about parents the adult child is estranged from. It might feel good to vent but to continue to do this with others applauding foul language etc., sounds messed up to me.

My user name was supposed to be NotAnotherGran so that it was obvious I wasn’t a grandma. I am a child of a difficult mother on here trying to see the other side lol

Every time estranged adults and estranged parents interact here, it ends up in civil war

It’s an emotive subject that will have its biases for sure. Some will say the same of the threads here. In fact, a few years ago I once read a now deleted thread on Mumsnet that had hundreds of posts voicing similar opinions as the OP about this very forum. Ultimately, adults should recognize that each family conflict is its own. The people/personalities/experiences/circumstances/issues in each are all different. Internet posts will never tell the full story because we’ll only ever get one side, and few admit to their own shortcomings completely without caveats and/or reservations. It’s the internet. People will find their echo chambers about all sorts.

I think estrangement must be the most awful thing whatever the circumstances, I have two close friends who’ve both estranged their older brothers and with very good reasons.

It’s a little bizarre as many many years ago I dated them both for a couple of years (not, I hasten to add, at the same time)

I've never looked at them but there have been in the past posters who were very anti EP's posting here on GN, reproducing posts from Reddit which told me all I would ever need to know.

We have though over the years had some meaningful conversations with those who have estranged where there has been mutual respect and understanding, taking advantage of the opportunity to learn from one another.

I did look several times and was amazed at first at the foul language and the hatred to parents most often mil. for the most trivial of reasons. I do hope that these young mothers are judged as harshly, it seemed mothers were the most despised. It seemed a lot were in their twenties to early thirties.I also looked at other subjects but it was a bit depressing so I didn't look again as in general they were not people whose opinion I identified with.