Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

Thanks all. X

Morning everyone.

The water issue has been resolved Allsorts so I no longer have to repeat the 'do not flush' mantra when I go to the loo. So sorry that you're have a family crisis going on at the moment x

We are so lucky to be living here as the wildlife is simply amazing. Last night 3 beautiful hares were on the golf course with a leveret, a heron on the pond and the best of all, a fox cub.

We've seen dad a couple of times and glimpsed the cub, but last night s/he was standing by our neighbours car .

Whiff, so sorry about what happened it myst have been upsetting for you.
Smilekess my sympathies about not flushing, I hate that to. Hope problem soon solved.
Yoga, I was prescribed Statins but don’t take them. I cut out processed foods and do not eat sugar anyway. Never been tested again to see what my reading is. I think my surgery thinks anyone over a certain age too much of a drain on resources. When is your holiday?
Got a bit of a family crisis at present and sorry for not contributing much,

Morning everyone.

Oh Whiff that must have been upsetting, thank goodness you're alright and that you were helped by such kind people. I hope you got some rest over the weekend .

That's a long time PurplePixie and although you're able to see your beautiful GD's the pain of being estranged from their mum will remain .

We had a very frustrating weekend with most of it spent with no running water . The majority of the site's water comes from a bore hole and there was an issue with the pump.

The touring site is supplied by Yorkshire Water so we were able to refill bottles from there but it was very frustrating having to remember not to flush every time we used the toilets because when we did, we had to refill which took over 3 litres of water.

I hate it if I can't flush.

Good news about your MOT yogin despite being told you have high cholesterol which it seems to me that everyone over a certain age is told they have.

Mr. S. was prescribed Statins but needed a couple of changes before he found some that agreed with him.

We had plenty of rain here last night and it's raining again so looks as if our ladies round of golf planned for this afternoon will be cancelled. We're 'fair weather golfers' .

PurplePixie

Morning all

Good to see the rain today and that it's a lot cooler.

Sorry to read about your fall Whiff sounded awful, good job some nice people stopped to help you. I realised I don't like Jazz when I went to a music night with my friend.
My mot all good but I was shocked to learn I have high cholesterol, the doctor prescribed me statins, which frighten the life out of me, sure I will not be taking them, my HC is the inherited type.

Estranged from my daughter for 11 plus years. It hurts but at least I see her two beautiful daughters. She is 50 this year.

Yogin glad you enjoyed the C&W. You can't help but be drawn into that music. I took a friend to a classical concert she doesn't like classical music by did like the Elgar but it was Sibelios ( not spelt correctly) that she loved. Have tickets for 4 concerts next year one is for Sir Bryn Terfel she pulled and face she doesn't like opera. The Phil has an access scheme if you are disabled and pay full price for your ticket you get a companion ticket free. And because I am a bronze member don't pay booking fee. Going to golden age of film music by myself . As another friend had to pull out as her husband is having his cataract done and if left alone will do something he shouldn't, the other is on holiday. But been many times on my own. You know me always find someone to talk to.

Hope your MOT went well. My GP sent 3 invites for dementia test I refused and told them to stop sending them . But seeing my GP this afternoon. So no talking after sit fit as I need to change my clothes for easy access. Taxi taking me as the buses wouldn't get me there when I need to be.

Smiles its raining today. Your prediction came true. No choir this week . We had our 4th song last week. Son of a preacher man. Thought it would be easy to sing but its not well not for me. But will keep practicing. Did you find a choir to join?

The only music I hate is jazz. Don't like hip hop or music in that vane. Did you sing along to the music with your neighbours .

Went out of lunch with 2 friends on Friday but ended going to a different restaurant as the one I booked decided to change their minds and not open lunchtime. But still have a lovely time. Unfortunately I tripped on my way home as it wasn't a startle I felt myself falling foward dropped my bag and there was a stone drive gate post and managed to reach for it and gripped the edge hard. Then my limbs stiffen and couldn't move. I did shout for help and a couple came to my aid . Unfortunately my speech was stuttery as I explained what I needed. Once my limbs loosened I couldn't move my hand that gripped the post so the lady had to pull them off and straighten them for me. They offered to fetch their car and take me home . Thanked them very much but I only live 2 roads away. I thanked them very much for helping me and staying with me until I could move. They watched me walk very slowly before we said goodbye.

Must admitted it really frightened me and don't understand why I tripped as I always look at the floor when walking outside ,at least I didn't drop my stick otherwise I think I wouldn't have been able to grab the post.

I am used to the startle reflex but this was something new . I don't frightened easily but really shook me up. And my pain levels shot up so just rested the weekend.

Know today to be extra careful. Good job I walk by walls etc. And get past empty spaces slower .

Hope everyone has a good day.

Morning everyone.

It was surprising still very warm here yesterday so we were pleased when we got our gazebo put up. It fits nicely into the corner of our decking and has mesh sides to keep the bugs out.

Spent the afternoon at our neighbours enjoying a rather eclectic mix of music as we all took turns to choose the next song.

Have a good Sunday everyone.

Morning everyone.

So pleased you enjoyed the show Yogin and your friend clearly did although you failed to convert her to C&W. Just wondering how she'd have demonstrated her pleasure if she had been .

Hope your MOT goes well and you 'pass'.

I think today will see the last of the very warm weather which would be right as the small gazebo which we've ordered to put on our decking, arrives tomorrow . At least we'll be fully prepared for the next period of hot and sunny weather. The two large parasols we have are good, but this will be better.

Have a good day everyone xx

Morning all

So funny your friends dog loved the cool mat Smiles and not your own doggie. Lovely and cool yesterday, bit hotter today, so will take Joey out as soon as I'm back from the docs. Just the mot one is invited to once you reach 70, yeks!

The show was brilliant. My friend whom I know is not a C&W fan, was singing along and clapping, tapping her feet, so really enjoying it. I asked her afterwards if I'd converted her a little to C&W, her answer; No .

Can't read rest of thread, must dash for my app. will read rest later or tomorrow.

Stay cool all xx

My mistake.

Just to clarify

You posted about casual references to slapping and punching stillawipp. There was no mention of punching.

Thank you Whiff, absolutely no need to feel sorry for me so please don’t waste time doing so, I am very happy with who I am. I won’t enter into a discussion but just to clarify that I didn’t say you did anything, if you read my post again!

GranHoney did a search on you came back do not match any results.

I took my brother into another room and slapped him not my son. I didn't say my son

Reading what I wrote I grounded my son for 3 months. Don't know why I said I slapped him I didn't.
But I don't owe you an explanation why I get muggled.

I only slapped my brother and nephew both where adults.

If you are a lurker here them if you have been for years you know my story.

But I don't think you have been a lurker just someone who just popped up.

Don't bother replying as I will ignore you.

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GranHoney duck off I haven't hit a child my nephew was 27 a grown man now 38 he told me he deserved it as I was always there for him when he was going through hell with his own mom.

Lurk somewhere else unless you have been have been estranged by your children. But then again you must be the perfect parent and human being . Your life must be so boring being perfect.

At least I am honest by the way my son will be 39 this year.

stillawhip I haven't punched anyone. But I know how to my brother taught me when we where in our teens. Plus we do punching exercises in our sit fit class age range mid 50-mid 80's. So we know how to look after ourselves plus many like me use a walking stick which I have used since I was 29.

If you both like picking on people for being honest I feel sorry for you says more about you than me being honest.

Morning everyone.

It's a lot cooler here this morning, a bit of a shock when we got up TBH because it's been so hot.

No luck with enticing Poppy onto the cool mat Yogin so I'm going to give it to our friends for their little Maltese who slept on it on Monday afternoon.

Hope you enjoyed the theatre last night.

Thank you Spring ; the sense of peace continues for us both.

Many of us have as you say come a long way, and this support thread not only testifies to that but also to the strength and determination that has got us to where we are today.

Just to clarify - that’s not to say that I don’t understand the depth of emotion felt by those estranged, or the immense hurt caused - I have every sympathy with that, having once been there myself.

I must admit, I was a little taken aback at the casual references to slapping and punching people…..

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....not bandana; like a cloak.

Another early walk on the beach this morning, it was lovely with the tide in.

Going to the Theatre this evening to see 'The ballad of Johnny & June' that's Johnny Cash, should be really good.

Stay cool everyone xx

Keep thinking about your encounter with your ES Smiles. Hope today the sense of peace continues for both of you. It is what it is and we’ve spent many years reconciling ourselves to the fact. Those of us long term estranged have come a long way. It’s a testimony to the work we’ve had to do to rebuild our lives without them in it.
We’ve been to a couple of distant family gatherings this weekend….always hard because people pointedly don’t ask about our EC but do our other children. Is often the little things like this that trigger us.