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Growing Old Disgracefully

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micmc47 Mon 13-Jun-16 10:05:04

A friend on a local site recently shared some wise words about the benefits of ageing, and they made such an impression on me I sat down and wrote this one, which is a very personal reflection on how I feel about it, but I hope it rings some bells with some of you who like me, are “of a certain age”… :-)

Growing Old Disgracefully…

As years go by and I reflect on how I’ve spent my time,
I’m more content about myself, not as when in my prime,
So many limitations stood firmly in my way,
Defining just what I could do on any given day.
Now I’m retired, with children grown, in work and in good health,,
I’ve reached that lovely stage in life when I can please myself.
I’ve known some friends who’ve passed away, that’s always sad to see,
But sadder still if at the end, they never quite broke free,
And did those things that feed the soul, stuff on their bucket list,
Just quietly to slip away, with all those chances missed.
Ageing liberates you, if you’ll only seize the day,
So much to see and do out there, and no-one in your way.
No clock dictating when and where, you’re not a fashion slave,
You set your own conditions, on how you will behave.
Not bothered by what people say, or negative opinion,
Just be yourself, and you’ll do well, safe in your own dominion.
Life isn’t a rehearsal, we only get one chance,
So treasure every moment when you get to sing and dance.
You may not be Sinatra, or that classy Fred Astaire,
But we all have our own song to sing, and moves to make out there.
No point in that “if only”, no time for that regret,
For opportunities you’ve missed, it’s better to forget,
Those hard times that are history now, they hold us back no longer,
Though painful, we survived them, and we’ve come out so much stronger.
The same goes for the future, it’s very plain to see,
Like Doris Day I have to say, that what will be will be…
So concentrate on here and now, and savour every day,
You’ve worked for your retirement, and now it’s time to play.
I’ve no plans to go quietly, so while I’m still around,
I’ll bind tight to my loved ones, and to friends whom I have found.
Our days on Earth are numbered, and no matter the amount,
As we see the twilight gathering, we want every one to count.
So yes, my hair has turned snow white, my health is not the best,
But every morning that I’m spared, I feel I’ve passed the test,
And greet another day to live, if I may be so bold,
I’m grateful just to be here, to disgracefully grow old…

bev1 Mon 13-Jun-16 12:02:15

What a wonderful piece!

DanniRae Mon 13-Jun-16 14:13:22

I really enjoyed this poem and it's full of so many truths - Thank You and Well Done!

Day6 Mon 13-Jun-16 16:09:23

Great poem. Made me smile, and think.

It's only in recent years that I have appreciated how really precious life is, even though mine has been full of lows and the odd highs. I am still grateful for every minute, although I know I am guilty of idling some of it away, doing nothing much and having no firm plans. That however I see as my reward for spending the best part of my life rushed off my feet and exhausted. grin

I really don't care much about others' opinions of me now, and that really is liberating. There are bonuses with ageing. I also remind myself that not everyone reaches pensionable age/old age, and that is so sad.

tiggypiro Mon 13-Jun-16 16:22:32

I make it my mission in life to grow old disgracefully but however hard I try I am sometimes held back by what I was like in my younger years and possibly the opinions of others. Nevertheless I will do my utmost to succeed !! I must however be doing reasonably well as my niece did introduce me to someone as her 'daft aunt'.

grannymouse303 Wed 24-Aug-16 10:29:41

This really made me smile! smile smile

obieone Wed 24-Aug-16 10:47:36

Lovely poem, and I like the picture too!
My octagenarian mum can be spotted on a rope swing, see-saw etc. She doesnt like to miss out!

grannyqueenie Wed 24-Aug-16 10:53:47

Some lovely thoughts that made me smile as I began the day. Having a lazy start today after sitting out in the garden till well gone midnight last night....polishing off the wine after sharing an enjoyable meal with some friends!!

whitewave Wed 24-Aug-16 10:58:44

Yes yes yes!!! That's exactly how I feel. And health allowing I am living my life as far as possible to the full savouring every single day.

Today swimming!- just waiting for GS2 to turn up with grandad, then Marks to buy a delicious dessert for tonight which is a party to celebrate 2 birthdays in the family.

I try to pack my days tight with stuff. Although if there is a day when I cba, then I allow a day to read or watch a good film. I can do what I like when I like.

Linsco56 Wed 24-Aug-16 11:35:24

What a wonderful poem! I'm printing it now to take to my mum tomorrow. She's feeling a bit down and a little sorry for herself at this moment...she's 86 so who can blame her for having a few off par days.

My wonderful aunt who will be 80 in September lives life to the full. Every day is full of fun and numerous activities... I just wish she would calm the driving a bit (think bat out of hell!) DH says "is she on drugs" grin

Izabella Wed 24-Aug-16 11:43:06

Wonderful and thanks for posting. 👍

nanaK54 Wed 24-Aug-16 13:22:36

Thank you for sharing, lots of truth there.....

POGS Wed 24-Aug-16 19:18:23


Thanks that was an enjoyable OP.

I will show it to my friend for whom we 'stole' an office chair from a neighbours rubbish skip for as she was drunk and had the 'my legs have gone' feeling. Another good BBQ was has by all.

It might stop her feeling sheepish as we dragged her, sitting on the office chair, holding on to the back of my disability scooter whilst I taxied her home in the early hours of the morning.

Before the thought police jump in we tried to take it back the next day but the neighbour just laughed and said 'No you keep it'. confused. I am going to recover it as it is blooming comfy smile

MontanaGal Wed 24-Aug-16 23:34:26

Micmc47 -What an amazing poem. Thanks for sharing it!

Synonymous Wed 24-Aug-16 23:48:45

Brilliant! Thank you so much. smile

Zandra01 Thu 25-Aug-16 03:57:49

That was so beautiful

NanKate Thu 25-Aug-16 06:57:38

Micmc47 what a fabulous poem that sums up my thoughts too about getting older.

When I am down town next I will treat myself to some dark blue nail varnish, I have been longing to paint my nails this colour but didn't have the courage until now. smile

NotTooOld Thu 25-Aug-16 17:58:08

Great poem - what a talented poet you are.

Grandadcupcakes Tue 18-Dec-18 12:34:00


They say I shouldn't,
I say I should.
They say I couldn't,
I say I could.
They say"you wouldn't"
I say I would.
Whatever they say
The fact is still.
If I want to,
I b****y well will.