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My doctor called me 'An elderly Lady.'

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FannyCornforth Fri 05-Mar-21 12:28:43

janeainsworth

I think once someone stops being middle- aged they progress to being ‘older’ or ‘elderly’. It’s just a chronological description.
If you’re in your seventies, as I am, then you’re kidding yourself if you think of yourself as middle-aged.
If you think ‘elderly’ is in some way a derogatory term with negative connotations, then you’re being a bit ageist yourself.

Bang on Jane
My thoughts exactly
It's a pathetic waste of time getting het up about age
My wonderful mom died aged 50
I wish to God she were here and in her mid 70s

grandMattie Fri 05-Mar-21 12:24:02

I was laughingly commenting about that to a friend who was anA&E doctor. Oh yes, she said, when prescribing, anyone over 60 is ‘elderly’! So...

Urmstongran Fri 05-Mar-21 12:23:24

I just suppose in medical terms, the reality is your heart, liver, kidneys are 70+ years old which is all your doctor is concerned about. Not whether you colour your hair or wear skinny jeans.
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janeainsworth Fri 05-Mar-21 12:17:21

Perhaps I should market some badges with ‘Old and Proud’ on them.

janeainsworth Fri 05-Mar-21 12:16:34

I think once someone stops being middle- aged they progress to being ‘older’ or ‘elderly’. It’s just a chronological description.
If you’re in your seventies, as I am, then you’re kidding yourself if you think of yourself as middle-aged.
If you think ‘elderly’ is in some way a derogatory term with negative connotations, then you’re being a bit ageist yourself.

trisher Fri 05-Mar-21 12:16:01

I was an "elderly prima gravida" when I had my first child. As was anybody who gave birth after 30 for the first time. I've had 40 years to get used to the word elderly it doesn't bother me now! grin

EllanVannin Fri 05-Mar-21 12:15:54

I'm not old at 80 either, it's the new 60 so far as I'm concerned.grin When you start getting the odd twinge.

Peasblossom Fri 05-Mar-21 12:11:17

In medical physiological terms you are one of the elderly, I’m afraid.

If you were middle aged that would mean living till you were 150!

eazybee Fri 05-Mar-21 12:09:08

I accept old, but elderly is five years older than my current age.
Kick the doctor with your Doc Martens.

Kate1949 Fri 05-Mar-21 12:09:02

My 93 year old neighbour was upset when her GP described her as elderly!

Blossoming Fri 05-Mar-21 12:08:56

Are you sure she was talking about you Venus?

I don’t label myself as ‘elderly’ but I have to admit that the newness has definitely worn off some bits...

silverlining48 Fri 05-Mar-21 12:04:09

I am only a couple of years behind you but up until recently I thought of myself as middle aged. I struggle progressing to elderly though my children could be regarded as such now I think about it. I wear jeans for heavens sake! smile I don’t think we ever see ourselves as old until perhaps bad health strikes.
Carry on carrying on.

midgey Fri 05-Mar-21 12:03:12

Personally I’m not elderly (73) but I do see a lot of elderly people about! ?

Venus Fri 05-Mar-21 11:44:50

I saw my doctor in surgery the other day and she referred to me as an 'elderly lady'. To be honest, I was somewhat taken aback by this description as I've never thought of myself as such. I admit to being middle seventies, but I've always considered myself to be modern and have always coloured my hair, so no grey. I would add she looked like she had just come out of school!

When does someone become elderly?