*Elephant in the room*

Well the forum title is "everyday ageism"?

Well I reckon we are all pretty skilled at talking about nothing, makes the world go round. Still have absolutely no idea what the thread is supposed to be about, but hey, it’s Christmas.

As for elephants in rooms - don't they make an awful mess? I seem to remember one on Blue Peter when I was a child. . .

M0nica

Realised that this is a resurrected thread

Yes, I was pleased to see GSM back, as although we are on different pages politically, her posts were interesting and she didn't get nasty, but the thread was started before she stoped posting.

If anyone's in touch, please let her know she is missed?

Realised that this is a resurrected thread

I decided against nurturing and cossetting the elephant in my room and gradually it shrank, became paler and finally wasted away completely. I was glad to see the back of it.

Nurturing elephants is emotionally exhausting and often takes a toll on your physical and emotional life and life is too short to do that.

Yet another resurrected thread

I have then it erupted, not good to say the least 😡

MayBeMaw

Oh, is that all?
From the build up I was expecting something interesting yawn

Yes, me too. I was expecting to hear that someone was now under the patio..... ....and not the elephant!

Maybe all this should be moved to a new thread "Touching Everyone's Raw Nerves"?

I have a large China elephant by the door. It belonged to my grandma. Someone told me that elephants always need to face the door otherwise its unlucky.

Perhaps some one with an elephant in their room as just got a bit Trunk...sorry couldn't resist.

It is asking whether you (me, anyone) has kept something bottled up in their marriage for a long time.

That is all.

You can answer yes or no and go into detail if you want to.

I have no idea what this is about. Are we meant to ask?

I am getting better at herding elephants out of rooms.

...as serendip said a bit up thread. I haven't read it all but I was struck with how grumpy some of the early posts were.

My interpretation of the thread title and opening post.

Serendip told us there had been something [problematic as a real elephant in a room would be unless it was a very big room] she hadn't mentioned/had bottled-up-her-angst-over for thirty years until the moment when it all came pouring out. And she wondered if anyone else had had that experience.

It doesn't matter what the elephant metaphor represents. It's the fact it has been there all those years, and tolerated 9possiblt while fuming inwardly) for all that time.

My ‘elephant in the room’ is people who type IN CAPITALS and use LOTS OF EXCLAMATION MARKS!!!!!

I’m visually impaired and find such posts virtually impossible to read.

By my chosen username this post drew my attention right off. The White Elephant is what I personally feel I have become. It's like you feel the family have agreed to avoid certain topics in your presense or ask certain questions in fear they will have to offfer aid. When in actuality all you need to do is talk to someone not take over your problems, just listen. You have been put on a shelf, to admire now and then, get a dusting by being invited to some family gatherings and then feeling they have given the appropriate attention, back on the shelf you go. Anyone else feel like this at times? So afraid it's just me and I have a real problem I need help with.

I always loved that song, so did our children and then the Grandchildren, some songs last forever.

Nellie the Elephant was played on Radio Two yesterday.

Right I've had enough, I have squeezed my elephant into the vestibule, pushed his trunk out through the letter box (that should tickle the postman tomorrow)

I don’t think you should clown around, cold

I am really confused

Does it have anything to do with packing a trunk?

Saying goodbye to the circus?

I mean alive.