What would you like for dinner, dear?

Aw, sorry, both of you. All long gone, I'm afraid. I'll make sure he cooks extra next time

I love risotto as well, but DH doesn't, is there enough for me?
Please

I love risotto,trouble no one else does, can I come over to yours?

I've just had a lovely seafood risotto, courtesy of DH. Twice as good as anything I would have come up with - I'm too impatient to stand stirring or to follow a recipe properly.

We have had roast chicken mash carrots and cabbage for tea made plenty bubble and squeak tomorrow yum yum ?

I tried those sandwich bags for the toaster - still have some somewhere. They are not very satisfactory for anything with cheese in; as it melts it tends to trickle down to the bottom of the bag!

roses. I tried and it doesn't work. Think I might need to resurrect the sandwich toaster. I've used it so seldom it really needs an airing. tizliz yes, Lakeland are on the expensive side and I haven't actually bought much there. Looks as tho I won't need to now !

Anyone who wants a week menu planner can print if free from here:

theprojectgirl.com/downloads/theprojectgirl.com-mealplanner.pdf

Think it is a great idea

Honestly, it's fine.

I'm sorry, mamie.

That's OK wot.
I probably could have phrased it better, but "should be like that" sounds even worse....

I've already appologised Mamie and admitted I am jealous. |t was just the way you said surely all partnerships are like that: working together.

As a second career DH and I were busy in the hospitality business which meant a great deal of cooking. We worked out our own specialities and became a really good team until I became ill and we had to get off that particular merry go round. Since then DH has been the main cook and I am afraid it has been me who is the one who is less than helpful when decisions have to be made as part of my condition is that I cannot make decisions very easily.
Recently while in Wilko's I found a pad of week at a view 'Meal Plan' sheets at the side of which is a tear off shopping list. This has revolutionised our eating issues as there is no time pressure on me to make a decision and if I think of something that would be enjoyed by both of us I write it on one of the days and also write on the shopping list anything we need to make it. It is not set in stone and days can be switched around and DH has taken it like a duck to water and is much happier now that he has a stock of ideas to work from to which he adds his own ideas.
He is a very good cook and makes some enjoyable meals so I am truly blessed!

We have always shared the household jobs. We both had careers that involved quite a lot of time away from home, so whoever was at home did what needed to be done to look after the family. We both do those jobs now we are retired, but obviously it doesn't really matter who does what as long as the work is shared. However, I do think the ability to cook, clean and manage a house should be basic lifeskills for everyone, regardless of gender.
Some of the descriptions upthread of people cooking meals that were met by constant criticism made me .

Phoenixits a Canadian staple yellow split pea soup. Probably French immigrant peasant type. It's very filling and good in winter.
www.pri.org/stories/2013-10-10/canadian-chef-traces-habitant-pea-soup-400-years-back-french-explorer-samuel-de

We divide the jobs between what we are capable of not traditional male/female roles. As I only work 3 days a week usually I tend to do most of the cooking and gardening. I never touch DIY and I can't brush the dogs or walk them on my own so those are his main jobs.

I'm green with envy TBH Sorry

janea it sounds similar to our unspoken arrangements - although he did get me sanding down paintwork recently and he did do some 'hovering' yesterday as we are trying to get the house ready for visitors.

maggiemaybe I thought the attack on Mamie unwarranted too, although the sharing in our house takes a different form - MrA doesn't cook because he doesn't like it, and I don't fix the cars or mow the grass or do any decorating because I don't like those tasks.

jenwren you asked when does the 'lady of the house' gets an evening off.
This one does, whenever we go out for a meal or whenever friends or family have invited us to their house.
What's your problem?

If I was at work and DH at home he would certainly cook in the evenings - provided he knew exactly what was planned and what to do with it! He wouldn't plan something himself although he has one 'signature dish' that I can leave him to organise himself.
But, just because he doesn't do much cooking, doesn't mean that we don't share the chores.

I think I am really fortunate. When I am at work I get back at 6:30. DH finishes at 4 and is home by 4:45 so he just gets on and cooks - he enjoys it and feels it is part of his wind down zone - computer in the kitchen, his music playing and a game on the go too. We make the shopping list together on a Saturday a.m., but he gets the shopping in too - he says it is cheaper when he does it on his own and he is right . I have been off work since Dec and in this time I have taken on more of the cooking - we both enjoy it really. We tend to eat a lot of chicken in various forms and a good mix of pasta, rice, potato meals and something 'easy' i.e. pizza / stabby meal on a Friday night.
However, if it were just me, having to think of everything and prepare everything all the time, I know I would be fed up very quickly.

After reading some of these posts I'm going to give my husband a great big kiss and tell him how wonderful he is. Planning, shopping and cooking in our house is shared in that if one of us is showing no sign of organising meals the other will. The only thing I hate is cooking in the evening. We eat our main meal at 2ish as is the custom here, which means you don't need much in the evening. If neither of us feels like sorting out food we go for a menu del día, which can be had for around €10 for 3 courses, bread and wine.

It was Mamie assuming that all husbands, partners do their fair share in running a household.

I seem to have produced a DS who is a good cook and does most of it in their household. (not taking after his dad )

Hmm, not sure what poor Mamie's said that's led to a two-pronged attack. Not much of a cook myself, I'm just glad that DH has discovered his inner Jamie Oliver now that he's retired. He probably got fed up of me straining the gravy through a sieve, etc.