Why can't I cook any more?

So many GN husbands who’ve taken over the cooking! My dh still doesn’t cook, but he invariably clears up the kitchen, loads the dishwasher and unloads it in the morning, so that suits me fine. I’d much rather cook than clear up!

I was a bit like you a while ago, ftm420 - seemed to have lost the knack of cooking for a crowd. However, after some practice recently, with a lot of family members coming and going, I seem to have improved and got back my cooking skills! So there's hope for all.

Norah

silverlining48

Oh yes, the other thing I still cook successfully is red cabbage .
It freezes so well too.

Perhaps ftm420 would find sausage, mas and red cabbage a menu pleasant to accomplish. Always successful, nice practice.

Yes, red cabbage goes well with sausage and mash.

I love it, DH not so much.

I used to be able to knock together a lovely meal in next to no time when the kids were at home, and often had big dinner parties, trying out new dishes, I used to love cooking.
Now is mostly just me and him indoors, so I admit that I have got lazy. Over Xmas I had to cook up a storm for the whole family and it was not up to my previous standards, nobody noticed though because I just got rid of disasters and put out the good stuff. It also exhausted me.
I think I have probably gone off cooking as well, it just doesn't float my boat anymore, and after years of cooking for everyone else am looking forwards to one of my daughter's hosting xmas next year.

silverlining48

Oh yes, the other thing I still cook successfully is red cabbage .
It freezes so well too.

Perhaps ftm420 would find sausage, mas and red cabbage a menu pleasant to accomplish. Always successful, nice practice.

Oh yes, the other thing I still cook successfully is red cabbage .
It freezes so well too.

Oh, and I totally forgot the red cabbage. We ate it on Boxing Day, though, so no real harm done...

Yes, been there, T-shirt, etc. One way of dealing with it is to make a written list of what I'm cooking and the order in which to do what's necessary to achieve it. My Christmas Dinner worklist this year was a masterpiece of minute-by-minute precision! It didn't stop me from over-microwaving the pudding, though - DH manfully chewed his way through a small portion but seconds were politely declined!

My dh took over the kitchen about 7/8 years ago. He enjoys it and I don’t, so no problem there but he, our friends and our children forget I did the cooking for nearly 50 years and got no thanks for it. I have done my share. Whats more my dh is a better cook than I am.
If I were on my own I would probably live on toast. Or soup/stew which I still make. The thought of cooking a full meal is just too much to contemplate. Any confidence i had is long gone.

I'm relieved that I'm not on my own when it comes to cooking. I'm finding it boring and tedious and don't feel particularly hungry. That said I've realised I've been very tired lately so - fingers crossed - I hope I can soon get back to 'reality' again and give cooking another whirl.

At 81 I have had enough cooking; 62 year marriage - always cooking for family and now retired OH who is a stranger to the stove. Enough is enough and lack of interest and concentration can lead to cooking mishaps.
If you can afford to, eat out as much as you can arrange or get in ready meals and takeaways. Don't be a martyr.

I am no cook really. My DM was hopeless with instructions - "put a bit of flour in" did nothing for me, and she had never heard of scales! But she produced good, basic meals, mostly the same each week. At my posh girls grammar we had one year of "domestic science" which covered cookery, needlework and ironing. The idea was we would be able to ensure that our future staff did proper jobs of it. Despite me being very academic I absorbed every single lesson and can still make fantastic pastry (of all sorts) and embroider well.

In my teens, a boyfriend's parents went on holiday without the two sons and the elder boy's girlfriend volunteered to cook for them. My boyfriend wanted me to do my share so being pretty useless at all but pastry I bought the Good Housekeeping New Basic Cookery book as it was the only one sold in our village shop and I am still using it today. The elder brother's girlfriend got pregnant while the parents were away and the relationship with my boyfriend ended soon afterwards cos I wouldn't "do it"!

I was quite adventurous when newly married (with the cooking, no comment about "the other"!) but DH also produced a few "signature dishes" from an M&S cookbook.

When life got really busy (kids, careers etc) we batch-cooked a lot of casserole-type things and interspersed with fish and chips, sausage and mash and similar. We probably overdid the ready meals for a few years but now I have gone back to the casseroles with more veg than previously. We aren't great on new ideas (never managed an authentic Chinese or Indian, so buy those and add extra water chestnuts, pineapple etc), but DH has lost all interest in cooking from scratch. It takes him ages to peel a potato or a cooking apple (I still remember Miss Ryan and her aim to get us all to peel a spud with a single "string" of peel - and still do it!) or chop an onion, so I usually end up doing that anyway).

My DDs and GC love coming to me cos my food is well-cooked and wholesome, but fairly plain.

I still do a mean Sunday Roast-type meal but have given up making my own Yorkshires.

All that said, I don't really enjoy cooking but find there is no alternative if you want to eat sensibly.

GrannyIvy I struggle to put a roast and all the trimmings on the table just for four so you have my sympathy. I know the family will expect my roast lamb at Easter and I’m dreading it.

I seem ok cooking for DH and myself but when the family come it always goes wrong. The children become “hangry” I’ve forgotten to put the Yorkshire’s in and the potatoes refuse to crisp and brown🤷‍♀️ It all takes longer and I get all hot and bothered.

I have to cook a roast for 10 at the end of January and although looking fwd to all being together will struggle providing a roast with all the trimmings. I did wonder about doing jacket potatoes and cold meats etc but DD1 said this is her most unfavourite meal!!

I’ll practise on DD2 and children today😂

And I thought it was just me. Can’t seem to get anything right these days.

Every other weekend I cook a roast dinner for the family and you can get your life something will go awry, or I’ll miss something out or make a mess of the timings. I used to enjoy cooking but now I’m happy with a jacket potato with tuna and sweetcorn, or stir fried vegetables with couscous and hot smoked salmon. Anything quick and easy. When there were two of us, I was more inclined to cook pies, casseroles, and “proper dinners”, but apart from batch cooking for the freezer occasionally I don’t spend a lot of time slaving over a hot stove these days.

Hmm it's all very interesting.
My DH eats very little and it has to be soft but hot and meaty. He's happy with half a ready meal.
My DD who lives with us half the time is veggie and cooks mostly pasta.
The DGC ... like completely different things.
Think that what people eat at home has changed completely over the years.
What I need to do is sneak in more fruit and veg.but it's difficult and I an definitely out of practice.

Dislike cooking intensely and lately nothing seems to turn out right I made bread sauce at Christmas it certainly wasn’t my best and the cheese straws didn’t turn out very good either ended throwing them away M lovely seagulls loved them though I just don’t do anything much more than stir fry’s now

My DH tried his best to over take the kitchen when he retired but before retirement he rarely showed any interest. Occasionally he does prepare and cook a few meals that he grew up with.

Retirement can bring out strange behaviour so it’s best hobbies are taken up with and encouraged. It will stop a certain person turning their nose up and crushing your confidence! You can get back to being the kitchen goddess you still are don’t be deflated get on with it and own your space.

My favourite way of cooking is one pot meals: Bolognese, chilli, curry, braising steak with vegetables, chicken casserole, fish stew.
I throw all the ingredients in a huge non-stick saucepan and simmer it all together at a low heat for several hours.
(There's always enough to freeze two portions for another day).
Then it's just an easy accompaniment: pasta, mashed potatoes, or (horror of horrors) a pouch of microwave wholegrain rice. Naan bread or tortilla chips as appropriate if I feel like it.

As I am generally at home during the day I can get this underway long before my husband gets home from work (and the bonus is it saves me having to wait while he cooks one of his complicated, long-winded S.W. recipes... 🤦)

Though I say it myself, I made a good Potato Dauphinoise this evening but while it was in the oven managed to burn the steak and fill the kitchen with smoke, setting the smoke alarm off.
Actually, the steak wasn't overdone, it was perfect although very brown on one side!

It has to be fairly simple recipes now.

Gin that is exactly how I feel about cooking meals.

Fm20. So glad it’s not just me, lately my cooking meals has been a bit of a disaster, after years of cooking for family and extended family ,and now there’s just the two of us I seem to have lost interest,it doesn’t help that DH has lost his sense of taste after the last Covid jab , so I think why bother. , I have lost the knack of getting lots of tasty flavours in to food, I would appreciate any tips and advice please as to how I van channel my inner Delia back. !!

My husband is a great cook. Me? If it doesn't go ping I don't cook it.

I'vè been elbowed out of the kitchen by DH except for the clearing up. I used to make the soups for lunch but he has even absorbed these into his repertoire. Now there is a family myth that I was never a good cook led mainly by DSis who never tires of stories about me pear flans and the DCs who only remember my DRTs ... dried rhino turds...which DH forgot to put in the Stove when they had risen as per my instructions. Part of the problem is that I specialised in cooking meat but we no longer eat it. If I do cook I make as much of a spectacular mess as DH but do the setting the table and the clearing up as well...so...I have retired gracefully from the cooking....and enjoy!!