should I have to do my neighbours garden

Well she has a right to take or clip anything that passes over the boundary to her side, so can't really blame her!

As you know she is irritated by this, then I think you should keep a close eye on anything that is starting to stray over the boundary and cut it back. If you have 30 trees etc. you can afford to sacrifice a few branches near the edge of your land for the sake of neighbourly harmony.

I do not understand the title of your post - you are not doing your neighbour's garden, you are just preventing your garden from impinging on hers, which is simply courtesy.

That was strange, where did that pop up from
Strange when people say it will PROBABLY be my last post! Why probably it either is or it isn't

My front garden is nicely lawned with bushes and pots. My back garden is quite wild with ivy and other plants etc. The bees and the butterflies prefer the back garden.

Thank you all for your comments on my thread whether I agree with them or not they were all very interesting.

I daresay Panthea has now departed, but in case she is still reading -

You joined to give your opinion of the reponses to your friend. Fair enough. She inadvertently broke the guidelines when she sent private messages to posters ( at random ) advertising her book, and was hurt at the reaction of the moderators, and you were angry on her behalf. That was that.

But then you returned to say that this thread is "a lot of nit picking about what neighbours should or should not do, or people wanting reassurance about what they should do with their own Gardens. Why can you people not just make your own minds up instead of getting the opinion of other random women on this site?" and "this seems just nonsensical to me" You shouldn't be surprisd that those random women chatting peaceably didn't like your post. They were not very polite in their replies, but it wasn't a very polite criticism, was it?

They are not random women, they are online friends. And, by the way, your friend was circulating publicity emails to just those random women - which started the whole thing off.

You perceive the responses are 'aggressive' Pan - maybe that's because you don't have physical clues to go on but all that has happened is people have disagreed with your view.

Nothing more , nothing less. No one had been rude, personal or abusive.

People tend to respond to friendly gestures with friendly responses . You appeared and listed why 'you people' were all doing it wrong.

Truly, what did you expect. We're not lab rats - we're independent , free thinking women with a multitude of experiences. Why not stop making judgements and stay a while ? You may be surprised at what you find .

Penstemmon. I didn't say I wanted experts, or intellectual discussion. You all prove my point about how unfriendly GN is. I have made no abusive comments, been perfectly polite, but because I don't happen to agree with everything the reaction is one of aggression. Quite a sociological study on here actually. Thank you all so much for taking part.

school holiday club has finished too

Ah Jalima , I forgot .

It's the school holidays folks

ethel yes, I think your neighbour has a right to chop down anything overhanging on her side; she must offer it back to you and if you don't want it then she must dispose of it.
However! a nice friendly neighbour would chat to you first about her intentions, and she is obviously not bee or butterfly-friendly if she chopped down your buddleia.

You could offer her a leaflet on how to be friendly to bees and how essential they are to our wellbeing.
www.bbka.org.uk/local/newcastle/bm~doc/ten_things_to_do_to_help_honey_bees.pdf
I don't know where you are, but your neighbourhood bee people should have some leaflets available.

Good luck!

Why can a forum not be a home Pan?

Maybe the inmates are indeed in charge of the asylum.

You're not an expert on Gransnet. So as per your comment why would we care what you think ? You thought we should not seek advice from others here only experts .

Is that specific enough ?

Oh gosh.. what were you expecting Pan? This is a chat site ... if you want experts and 'intellectual discussion' seek it elsewhere. It's a free country so you can do as you please. Nobody will mind.

NanaandGrampy: Inhabitants? This is a forum not a home I am not an expert on what? perhaps you can be more specific, although with the randomness of your comment I doubt that you can

Thanks for popping in Panthea and making such a sweeping statement about GN and its inhabitants. Luckily, you're not an expert so I won't take any notice of your comments .

Pensionpat that really made me chuckle !! Timing is everything or so they say

Hi Pension pat. Thanks for just proving my point re GN

Panthea. I don't think you will be missed.

Panthea again!
This will probs be my last post as I have asked GNHQ to close my account which I guess they will do tomorrow when work starts again. I was curious to take a look here at some of the threads just to make sure that my opinion of GN was correct. Some of the threads have bullying and snide remarks. The others...well this gardening one for example seems to be alot of nit picking about what neighbours should or should not do, or people wanting reassurance about what they should do with their own Gardens.Why can you people not just make your own minds up instead of getting the opinion of other random women on this site? I can fully see why one would seek the advice of an expert, but this seems just nonsensical to me.

leemw711 as long as it is within your boundaries you can put a fence up. As you have sons who can do this that is the route I would take. Speak to the mediation people to let them know this will have to be your solution. I wanted to put up some trellis but neighbour's fence is a bit wobbly and would not have been strong enough for trellis. I knew they could not afford new fencing so I just had new posts put in on my side and attached the trellis to my posts. Neighbours enjoy my roses and honeysuckle now and are happy with that arrangement.

Pretty planting flowerofthewest

The law is that your neighbour should not clip anything that is in your garden only that which encroaches into hers. She has to ask if you would like the clippings/branches returned to you. If you don't want the clippings tell her she has permission to dispose of them. If any clippings are thrown into your garden then she is fly tipping. HTH

I have second home, as I live in Sweden, I cant attend the garden very often, however a neighbour on one side cuts the lawn, its not a big garden, the neighbour on the other side comlains when I come over about weeds from ours coming into hers, I have said she can willingly come into our garden and take up the weeds or put weed killer down, which she does. She also complains about bramble bushes coming through, and yes, they are a nuisance but originate from the railway which is also at the bottom of the garden, I regularly strip the brambles back each time i visit, but they do tend to take over, the only positive thing is they do give some lovely blackberries at this time of year, any suggestions how I can completely get rid of these blackberry bushes, there is a wire fence between the railway line and our houses, and it is not possible to climb over where they originate from, any good ideas out there, I will willingly accept. Thank you.

If you use the existing posts the neighbour could legitimately remove anything you put on them, as he is responsible for them. He may even remove them if he is small minded ebough.

Leemw711 Tie rope between the posts as J52 suggests, but thread it through plastic netting first (£1.99 in Poundsaver) to hang like a curtain. Then plant fast-growing climbers to climb up the netting (golden hop £14.99 from Crocus would be quick and bright)