What to say to make young man feel better?

How old is he?

Is he old enough to understand that relationships do break down and that his parents divorcing doesn't mean they love him any less?

Is he old enough to be told and understand that abusing his parents is not the answer, and that ignoring them is itself a form of emotional abuse?

Ah I will PM you @Smileless2012 otherwise this might be outing.

Sounds like our Harry

OnwardandUpward

What would you say to a young man who's still upset and angry that his parents divorced when he's too young to remember much of them being together?
He's angry with both birth parents and has been abusive to both, but mostly ignores them.

How old is he.
If he is a grown adult, I'm afraid that I might be tempted to tell him to 'get over himself'

Surely if this is our Harry he is no longer a young man…if not then however old this young man is he needs to accept the decision his parents made was for the best, for them and get on with his life, and accept that these things happen.

Sounds to me that there is more going on with this young man than his parents' divorce. If it happened when he was quite young he should be over it by now.
He is blaming them for things that may be wrong in his own life.

OnwardandUpward

What would you say to a young man who's still upset and angry that his parents divorced when he's too young to remember much of them being together?
He's angry with both birth parents and has been abusive to both, but mostly ignores them.

I wouldn't say anything, unless he asks.

Do you have a reason to say anything?

What sort of abuse? Real physical abuse or just ignoring as people do - just the blame game, bad parents and all that?

Perhaps assume he'll work it out as he matures.

Angry and abusive??
I know what I'd be saying to him...

Yes I think so!

It's not Hazza but probably a similar type of thing/age.

Parents are probably "too nice" or too concerned.