Just wondered how other grandparents coped with the thorny problem of "disciplining" grandchildren when they are at their house?
As ours live in New Zealand and we go out to see them each year, we tend to have them over to stay for a day or two at a time. My philosophy is to keep any stern words about behaviour to a minimum and usually along the lines of "I'm sure your mum and dad would not be happy to hear that you've been ....."
However, it does beg the question Should our rules always apply in our home? Our four are not, thank goodness, very unruly or difficult, just normal, boisterous children sometimes getting over-excited.
My husband struggles with the concept of not imposing discipline on home turf, and I've been known to take away toys or sweets if bad behaviour persists. But when we are at their house, my daughter has already asked us not to be involved in any discipline-related matters (even backing up her and her husband) as she says this is a parental not a grandparental matter.
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