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what do the grandchildren call you?

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jackyann Thu 19-May-11 13:30:58

I shall soon be a first-time grandmother (love all the tips - thanks!)
In my area, the traditional names are: Nanna / nanny & Gramps / grampy.
In my family when we became adults it was thought that these names were childish, and we were invited to call our parents & grandparents by their given names (this goes back at least 3 generations)
However, when my children became adults they laughed at the idea of doing this - we remain "mum & dad", my parents remained "nanny & grampy", and their great-grandad had a family nickname that we all called him.
My parents recently died and I suppose we would traditionally become "nanny & grampy". I myself would be quite happy to be called by my given name (a suggestion that has caused even more hilarity!)
So: I find "grandma" formal, "nanny / nanna" fine for small children (but I hope to be around until they are adults).
My children think it's silly to use my given name (as if I don't want to be a granny - I do!!)
I don't have any cultural background to enable me to get round it by calling myself "oma / nonna" etc.

Please pitch in, you all have such good ideas about everything else!

GrannieBumble Tue 08-Jul-14 20:22:43

I am called Bumble, originally Grannie Bumble but I felt this might be shortened to Grumble ! So kept calling myself just Bumble & it worked !

Rowantree Wed 02-Jul-14 13:23:00

I never knew my grandparents. Two were killed at Auschwitz, another grandmother died of septicaemia when my mother was 2 and my other grandfather died when my mother was 13. I used to envy friends whose grandparents were still alive and saw their grandchildren regularly. However, I did have one great-grandmother - who was quite happy to be called Grandma smile For some reason my mother wasn't that keen on her - she'd brought my mother up from childhood when her mother died and my mother hated living in St Helens with a grandmother who was, to her, rather cold and unloving.
And sadly my own mother died too soon to see many of her grandchildren, let alone any great-grandchildren. I am so glad my father is still alive to see his little great-granddaughter, but he's always insisted that his grandchildren call him by his first name (Heinz) and NOT Grandpa and that's how it's always been. He says that being called Grandpa would make him feel old grin

oznan Wed 02-Jul-14 11:38:16

I am little nanny,ex-hubby is grandad silly,step-gran is gran,other nan and grandad are nanny and grandad bubbles.Great nan is big nanny!Don't ask me why!

dorsetpennt Wed 02-Jul-14 09:32:42

My granddaughters have two grandmothers who wanted to be called granny, neither of us like nan or nanny [we're not goats] or grandma. So we settled on being two grannies. However, my oldest granddaughter, for no reason we know of, started to call me Gagi and that's what they both call me. So we have Granny and Gagi.

Baylzma Wed 02-Jul-14 08:59:31

I am Nanny Carol to the eldest 7 of my Grandchildren but to the youngest 4 (all siblings ages 2 - 7) I am Nanny-Nanny as they say I am more special than Nanny. This, as you may imagine makes me feel wonderful.

Rowantree Tue 01-Jul-14 20:22:50

I'm Grandma Wise (no, don't titter!) or Grandma Crone.... DH is Grandpa Andrew.

granjura Tue 01-Jul-14 20:17:51

ahaha being called 'nanna' here would really make people laugh. I was once, but no longuer ;)

Une nanna, is a stunning woman, or even a bimbo ;) (in French)

crazycat Tue 01-Jul-14 16:07:23

I'm known as nana to my three grand kids. They call hubby "gramps".

Not sure whay they call us behind our backs though! grin

granjura Tue 01-Jul-14 14:25:09

We had friends in the 70s who forbade their kids to call them 'mum' and 'dad'- which I found so bizarre and silly. And we now have friends who forbid their grand-kids to call them anything like 'granny' and 'granpa' (etc)- which I also find daft (personally, sorry).

Do any of you find it distasteful to be called the above and variations of?

janerowena Tue 01-Jul-14 13:25:43

I like the Swedish way - mormor for mother's mother, morfar for mother's father, farfar for father's father, farmor for father's mother. Eay words for a child, yet you know instantly which grandparent is being referred to.

jenn Tue 01-Jul-14 12:19:40

My grandson lives in Poland and grandma there is Baba.
He calls his mum's mum small Baba his greatgranma is BigBaba and because I have a horse I am horsey Baba.

janerowena Mon 30-Jun-14 19:01:27

Grandma and Granpa here too. It doesn't worry me at all. It did while my daughter was pregnant - but as soon as GS was born - well, what's in a name? If DBH was called Theophilus I would still love him.

sparkygran Mon 30-Jun-14 18:29:56

I thought long and hard about what we would be called when our 1st grandchild came along 10 years ago and eventually opted for Grandma and Grandpa I don`t find these name formal I just like the Ma and Pa element to them

Glammy Thu 19-Jun-14 21:32:38

As per my username I am Glammy, chosen by my daughter who maintained it suited me. My husband wanted to be Grampy as that was his Dad's title but gd has decided on Grampsy. New grandson will presumably just follow suit but it will be interesting to see.

Mogsmaw Thu 01-May-14 22:40:24

I'm "granny grant"' my younger daughter told me, who am I to disagree. He is "pops" for the same reason. I like being granny grant. My elder daughter ( they both have their own daughter ) has agreed with the names but we await our granweans opinions.
My girls called my mum "puffin gran" , she liked puffins, this was their own invention. Dd1's father in law thinks this is hilarious and says we should continue the practice and call his wife " spanny granny" as
they have a spaniel. She does not think its funny at all!
The kids will decide what you are called. The only thing I don't fell happy adout is one dad's mum is known as " other granny" and I'm not having that. It sound cold like she is sidelined and it's not by me!

annodomini Thu 24-Apr-14 09:44:17

In Scotland, grandmothers were - perhaps still are - mostly grannies. I remember our family being quite shocked when my aunt asked her GC to call her 'nana'. The same goes for the Northern Irish GPs of two of my GSs.

FlicketyB Thu 24-Apr-14 09:35:23

Following family tradition we are Grandma and Grandpa. There is only one Grandpa but the two Grandmas are differentiated by the addition of their Christian name, so I am Grandma FlicketyB, she is Grandma Chris.

I never heard the use of Nan or Nanny for a grandmother as a child, everyone I knew spoke of grandma or granny. I understand that my own maternal grandmother was asked about being a nanny and replied that she refused to be called by a name commonly associated with goats, since she was Irish that was probably the association she knew. I think what a grandparent is called quite often depends on region and community, as well as family.

geeljay Thu 24-Apr-14 00:41:34

Nanny Gill generally, but 2 year old twinny great grandaughters have morphed this into GeeGee. OH is Bompah to them, but Granps to the older grandchildren. The names they gave us were all chosen by 'the kids' Our own children refer to us in conversation with their offspring as Nanny Gill and Gandad Gord. When we send them a card we send it from Gramps.

Nelliemoser Sat 19-Apr-14 13:49:01

I am now officially Nannan a local south Yorkshire term. My co-inlaw is Grandma.
Only very recently has DGS 19mnths, and now with a very rapidly growing vocabulary, has actually referred to his Mum as "Mummy" and pointed to himself and said "Name".

ninathenana Sat 19-Apr-14 13:16:52

DGS#2 has special needs and says very few words. Oddly nana is one of them.
He would say this for months before he could say mumma. Yesterday for the first time he used the sign for grandad much to DH`s delight.

rosequartz Fri 18-Apr-14 21:38:30

DGD2 age 2 in conversation with DH:

"Dad-dad"
"Can you say Grandad?"
"Dad-dad"
"Say Grandad" (said slowly)
"Dad-dad"
"Try saying G R A N D A D"
"***" (his Christian name, said in exasperation)
End of conversation.

Penstemmon Fri 18-Apr-14 17:52:26

I wanted to be and am known as Nana as my mum was to my DDs and her mum was to me.
DH tried to be Grandpa, like his dad, but DGC1 name for him turned out to be GaGa so we all let that stick. Now they call him Gargs or Gargle -la-laconfused

gratefulgran54 Fri 18-Apr-14 17:32:03

I am Granny to all my tiddlers, although my 'official' title is actually Little Granny, as there is still a Big Granny (great-grandmother). This has followed on from when my sons were small, and her mother was still alive (great-great-grandmother). My parents were always Grandma and Grandpa to my boys, which they loved, and I'm sure, had they still been with us, the tiddlers would call them the same.

The DiL's mums both opted for Nanny, so it's always been clear to the tiddlers who everyone is. The Grandads are just that...Grandad (or Grandan as DGS3 calls them).
My eldest 3 GC don't have an immediate Grandad sadly, as my DiL's Father has passed away, and my ex has no contact at all (his choice), but they have their Uncles and cousins, and Big Grandad (spouse of Big Granny obviously) so have not missed out on other male members of the family.

The only odd thing about the whole set-up is that Big Granny and Grandad are actually my ex's parents, but they are very much part of our lives, and we all see them at least once a fortnight, adults and tiddlers alike.....he sees his parents maybe 2-3 times a year, in spite of living in the same town as them.

ffinnochio Fri 18-Apr-14 16:45:35

when tbugrin First chuckle of the day!

Dragonfly1 Fri 18-Apr-14 16:17:51

I've always been nanny, but littlest started out with nanna. This week it's morphed into Ninny. And mumma has become mimmy. And dadda is diddy. Love it.