Plenty of love and affection, but also some ground rules that must be adhered to. Children like and need reasonable rules and IMHO seem to respond well to having them. Also, I would put into place some simple chores in exchange for small amounts of pocket money (if you can afford it). Also some girly time watching girly telly together and doing nails etc. perhaps after completing homework or some such thing. Also (again IMHO) never break a promise so she knows she can rely on you totally. Sorry if that sounds a bit lecturish (is that a word?!!) but it is something I feel strongly about. Wishing you all the luck and strength. Take care of yourself.
They don't really care do they
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs