Locking children in their bedrooms

Pleased to see you back Humbertbear. I still cannot comprehend the attitude of the parents and their 'expert'. I suppose the monitor in the bedroom is better than nothing, but if I can remember back to being a child, I don't think I would have liked the feeling of being a prisoner, monitored or not.

We have spoken to them about this in detail and they are obdurate that this is the way to go. When I commented that they'd better hope her teacher didn't hear of this I was told ' we have told the teacher and she said she had to do the same thing'.
Sorry I haven't been back to post earlier. The matter is not resolved but they have learnt that they can't do anything in secret. They have a monitor in the bedroom and insist the child is sleeping better as a result.

wasn't an obvious troll.

Agreed!

So ...we've gone from Sunday round to Thursday without the OP came back to clarify anything.

Seems a pity if it was a genuine post. Oh well, let's move on.

I quite agree,Flickety - those houses are certainly not designed for families.

Some sleep expert, this isnt even a sleep problem, it is a security problem, like my son standing on the landing in the middle of the night crying night after night after his sister was born. We didnt leave him to scream it out or lock him in his bedroom we dealt with the problem with love and reassurance.

I am left wondering however whether this problem has arisen because the family have moved to brand new house because I have noticed recently that a lot of new houses are being built over three floors with the most family unhelpful bedroom arrangements possible.

Some three storey terraced houses have just been built behind my DS's conventional 1930s semi. There is no bedroom floor, just one bedroom on each floor with the 'master suite' in the roof. DS and DDIL have two children aged 2 and 5. and we were discussing how on earth you could live in these properties if you had a family. Should the 5 year old go in the bedroom beside the front door, two storeys down from her parents? Would the two year old sleep on the first floor, one storey down from his parents? Meanwhile would the parents in their eyrie in the roof really know what the children were getting up to on the floors below?

Think of the children three or four years older and playing in the downstairs bedroom and able to open the front door and walk out of the house unsupervised because their parents are upstairs in the living room completely cut off from what is happening on the floor below.

You lot are so funny!

Oh, yes we do..........................

We NEVER argue!!!!!!!!!

Let's all stop making assumptions, shall we? If the OP doesn't get back to us, we should give it up as a bad job and move on to another argument discussion.

Now children! Be nice!

Yes well. Sadgran was still referring to the original post. You didn't need that sigh.

I realised that, j, but what has been said in the thread does make a difference to how one might look at the issue. It's not clear cut.

And I agree with Sadgran completely.

Bagithat I think Sadgran was referring to the original post! Not all the ifs and buts that this thread has turned into.

Sigh. Not if it's to keep the child (and possibly others) safe.

If this advice about locking the poor child in her bedroom was given by a so-called, 'sleep expert', then it should be investigated by an official authority involved with the welfare of children. Such treatment is heartless to say the least.

I wish I had been able to be firmer with my daughters - I just couldn't bear them to be uncomfortable or upset. DD1 did something really naughty when she was 13 and I knew I should have stopped her going to a party which she had been looking forward to for weeks - I let her go, with just a severe lecture about how unhappy her behaviour had made me. She didn't do it again.
I know now that I should have made them accept the consequences of their actions.

Two-storey house with balconies and decking. Hence the speed with which the locks were fitted to the windows.

Absent I hope it was a bungalow or ground floor flat!!

So you can see why some children, usually the ones who have to be actively supervised for their own safety ,while awake. Are locked in. Thesecaseshowever are very rare. But they do exist.

My grandson, then aged two, took to climbing out of his bedroom window and rampaging about in the garden several times a night. Childproof locks were quickly fitted.

My DS had just turned two at Christmas, I had a stair gate in place (it didn't open, you had to climb over) he managed to climb out of the cot, over the gate and got down to the kitchen. He pulled a chair across the floor and climbed on the worktop, found the cake tin and had a big bite out of the Yule log. Never underestimate children, there were four adults in the house and not one heard a thing.

My son got up one morning to find that his daughter, then aged 4, had cut a very neat slice of bread (with a meat cleaver) and toasted it all on her own. She still had all her fingers. Yes, they can do the most hair-raising things. I think they then decided to have sliced bread available for toasting.