That time of year approaching...

Littlenellie Ariadne and I aren't the only ones to wish you a special reward for all that you do for others.

I agree with soop, completely. nellie, you really do deserve a massive break, and the medal, and some appreciation. Glad you had a couple of tranquil hours at least. All I can do is raise a to you x

Make the most of it nellie as you say with teenagers it won't last. Stlll nearly 3 weeks of the hols gone - we had the grandsons the first week and due to have them the last 2 weeks. Do enjoy their company but do get tired. It is actually easier for us to take them away as at least Mum doesn't make any calls on us as well but can only afford 1 week well could afford more I suppose but then we wouldn't have any hols to ourselves.

Littlenellie If ever we could award you a medal, it would have to be solid gold. In spite of all your traumas, you can still make us You are a real champ.

Well some one was smiling on me when I happened upon you all,thank you for all of the support I get from you,and for letting me get it all off my chest. ...just had a tranquil couple of hours at Gooderstone water gardens with the girls and my son,have just settled down DS made me cup of tea,girls are exercised and quiet stairs dogs worn out ...golden time...if only it would last,bliss

nellie you put our petty niggles into perspective, you're a kind, brave woman, the sun will shine on you soon

nellie You deserve so much better.

nellie, what can I say? Life has dealt you a bad enough hand already without having teenage shenanigans to deal with, even if they are guiltless in this case. I hope you can find some time to take a deep breath and relax - with or without the knitting and the Catherine Cookson. ((((hhugs))))

Oh if only....leonardo di caprio..as he was in that scene,doubt he would be sitting like a saddo in wait rose car park looking for me

nellie It's when the windows steam up that you get funny looks!
Look after yourself xx

You'll get through it, nellie! It's a very good idea to take yourself off every now and then to give yourself a break.

nellie {{{hug}}} hope you have a better day and can get a little space from it all.

ella took myself off to wait rose and sat in the car on Saturday eating and reading and staring into space ....until after 2 hours was getting some strange looks.....things you do when you are desparate ..lol xx

Thanks to when and Ella from a pissed off Nellie

Thanks elegran ....peaceful would be good....otherwise I am off to the nearest funny farm oh we'll only another 5 weeks to go....thumb still mangled and pretty lifeless from incident with car door....now what to do today in soggy Norfolk that dosent cost an arm and leg and dosent involve turf wars ...apparently P has been implicated as she is from Essex and therefore on their manor.....both families where the girls are involved are known to the police and are local "faces" with big family back up.. " in the smoke" ......to use their language WTF is it all about,came from Essex to get away from E 's father and violence and landed up in a cabbage patch full of local D *****s pretending to be plastic gangsters...ggggrrrrhhhh......please let me be a little old lady who knits shreddies and sits in the corner smiling all day reading Catherine Cookson.

Oh, nellie, I wish I could conjure up a peaceful week for you. Sometimes these things seems to drop on you relentlessly, don't they? Hope it soon gets sorted out

nellie chin up love, you are a supermum/nan and don't forget to escape for your little bit of "me time" (in the car?)

Nellie You are right - grandparents need grandparents too! Teenagers are hard work when you are younger, impossible as you age.

I hope all this gets sorted out soon. A pity they were in the wrong place at the wrong time, if they had not heard about the incident they could not have got the blame for commenting. But you can't lock them up. P's phone will surely show whether she did send this text, and I am sure the girl who told them against police instructions will get a bollocking anyway.

Bear up! There will be a nice peaceful day just around the corner.

elegran thanks its nice that the problems are highlighted and recognised,I unfortunately am a surrogate mum because my daughter is no longer with us,I don't have any other acceptable choice,but the problems with flagging energy levels and being a disciplinarian..because that is what parents do..ring true.My grandmotherly role is non exist ant now because I have parental responsibility and as she is now a young teen with issues there dosent seem to be much fun but plenty of hard work...like the article,I miss my life,I have raised my children,I would love to be what I am chronologically,an almost 60 year old with time to do things I want to do ........am winging sorry visit from police last night re an incident with neighbouring children we are not involved ,but some how E and p have been dragged into things .... Rather nasty as a sexual allegation regarding a 15year old boy has been made by two 12 year olds living nearby,as the boy has been arrested E and P where told by the girls about it against strict police instructions not to speak of it....allegedly a text was sent from P's phone although she has no credit and couldn't have calling the girl a liar and now we have got dragged into this and are awaiting visit from CID we had the girls out all day yesterday this occurred in one hour yesterday whilst I was cooking dinner and they went out to play for that time.....This is what I am up against....I wish there was a grandparent that I could send them too for some respite...no emoticon to describe how hard done by and totally P****d off I am....sorry for venting......

Interesting, Elegran! This is how I am able to grandparent most of the time, mainly because of distance. The two little girls with me at the moment live 3 hours away, and they are the nearest. However, I do enjoy being on call and helping out too, which I what I'm doing at the moment while DDiL is at the Olympics full time this week as an athletics coach, and DS is working.

Loving it all! And I have the greatest admiration for those of you who do so much more.

nellie you deserve a medal! x

Article about not looking after grandchildren too much.

www.telegraph.co.uk/family/9447484/I-want-to-be-an-indulgent-granny-not-a-surrogate-mum.html

Sounds a good idea suzie am sure they will like that,we have a wii and we do play on it like that idea of CDWM very much...thank youxx

You could get them to do a come dine with me where they have to write a menu for a 3 course meal., buy and prepare the ingredients, provide the "entertainment" and then you mark them out of 10 for the evening. You could provide them with a budget etc. maybe invite a couple of other people round who could invite you back for another evening. You could do the same for them another evening and they could mark you. or a great british bakeoff! We usually do the come dine with me in the holidays and always have fun. the entertainments have included dancing, table tennis competitions,countdown game etc. You could try to get a 2nd hand Wii computer game which is quite interactive and you can do sports and dancing, plus there is the Olympics to watch!

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