Are three grannies acceptable?

My grandsons have 3 grandmothers too. I think we are all called nana but with our name added. I am just delighted they are so well loved. We each love the boys and my relationship with them will be different from the ones they develop with the other nanas not better just different.

It is sad that your daughters have distanced themselves from you. If you want to maintain a relationship with your grandchildren it may be worth apologising to your daughter for upsetting her even if you feel you did nothing wrong. It feels as though you may still be angry that your ex is with his new partner but sometimes it's worth swallowing your pride for the bigger reward. Good luck.

I don't want to pry, but does all this go back to what happened when you and her father split up? Does she blame you in some way?

Its ok to feel hurt and angry but it sounds like the letter you wrote has upset your daughters to the point they no longer contact you or include you. Put the rights and wrongs of the situation aside if you want to have contact and a relationship with your daughters and grandchildren it looks like you are going to have to keep your comments and thoughts to yourself.

Extended families are often problematic and its like stepping on egg shells for some but for the sake of relationship with them it might be worth eating humble pie even if its through gritted teeth. Maybe you could send a care welcoming the new baby maybe with a small gift as a peace offering.