The comments on this thread are very positive! I'm afraid I have a less positive take on things.
I look after my DGD, 20 months now, 3 days a week, and have to stay with DD and her partner 2 nights as they are 70 miles away. Of course I love our DGD to bits and its lovely sharing her early years like this, but its HARD WORK and while I'm having a peripatetic life there's no freedom to spend with my DH who is running the home ship alone. It feels like time spent apart from him now is too precious sometimes!
My own mother is nearish my DD so I visit her for one of the evenings for a meal (40mile round trip) which kills 2 birds with 1 stone as I normally wouldn't see her as much. She lives independently and is fit and well at 89.
However all this GIVING is pretty wearing! Also I cook a meal for DD's family (and me!) one night, having bought all the food etc, also take pudding to my mother for our meal the next night. I also pay for activities with DGD. I feel guilty that its my DH who is funding all this, and he is on his own at home! He does come with me once in a while, but DD's house is small, there's more catering, and there seems even more to do! And the home ship contains a dog, 2 cats, 4 hens and a demanding veg plot, all too difficult to abandon easily.
Now my DD is talking about settling permanently near her partner's parents (even further away). I just wish she wanted to come nearer to us! A lot nearer!
Is there anyone else out there who sometimes feels equivocal about all this giving? or am I just a selfish so and so!