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grand son

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olliesgran Fri 25-Jan-13 21:52:26

Our grand son is 2years and 9 months, as bright as a button and very fluent. He speaks like a 4 years old. We are close to him, as my daughter and him lived with us for the 1st year of his life, and we mind him 3 days a week, while she is at work. Recently, he has statred being very verbally mean to his grand dad, who takes it all to heart. "I don't want you in the room", "I don't like you", " go away"are heard a few times a day. or he ignores his grand dad completely. My husband takes it all to heart and is very upset, believing his relationship with this much loved grand son is finished. GS seems to have similar attitudes to the other men in his life. I try to tell my husband that it is a phase, that it will pass, and that showing the child how upset he is just feeds the negativity of the situation and gives GS too much power. Has anyone come across this? How did you handle it?

annodomini Fri 25-Jan-13 22:33:19

Didn't we have a thread about this issues last year sometime? Wonder if we can find it.

nanapug Fri 25-Jan-13 22:33:26

Yes, we had this with my GS. His Mum and he came to live with us when he was 2.5 and he used to say he didn't like my OH. We put it down to the fact that his Dad (my DD had separated from him) was a very quiet, soft man who didn't chastise him at all and because of the circumstances, spoilt him. Also my OH has quite a deep voice and is fairly firm. We felt that he needed a good male role model so we didn't ask him to change his personality, but we did make sure he did nice things with him and talked about what a lovely grandad he was and when our GC said he didn't like him we told him that he loved him very much. Our GC is now 7 and still lives with us and he adores his grandad now. It took a while and my OH didn't worry about it but I hated it. I agree that he mustn't let his GC see he is upset. Tell him to walk away when he doe it and not to bear a grudge, he is just a baby and isn't doing it to hurt him.

janeainsworth Fri 25-Jan-13 22:51:05

I think it was this one anno