I found your post very interesting Midwifecf for a variety of reasons. Our 6 year old grandson was diagnosed with autism at 3 and I sometimes wish he hadn't been as he now goes through life with this label but as you say, so much more help is at hand nowadays and to access it a label is necessary which your husband and son didn't have.
My grandson goes to a mainstream school and has found it difficult to make friends because of his "funny ways ".However he eventually palled up with a lad who we think has undiagnosed Aspergers because they are very similar in many ways. It is lovely that he has a real friend but sadly the school is going to put them in different classes next year (it seems to be the policy to mix up the classes ) even though my daughter requested for them to be together. I can understand the school though as the boys are very loud together and the needs of the rest of the class need to be considered.
I liked the idea of the special club. Our grandson sometimes goes to a centre which specialises in autism and it is lovely because all the children accept each other for who they are. Those on the spectrum don't have prejudices. Thanks for your post :I found it encouraging.
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