Oh Tibbs what a terrible story,10yrs! OMG! Your story is so like mine in parts, owing to my going to court, my once loving D now hates me, I don't know how, after having a close & loving relationship with her for 23yrs (even being telepathic) that this could happen, almost 2yrs now, I could cry right this minute! I really messed up in court, did it all myself, not a good idea, paper work no problem, but in court, facing a Judge, one needs a barrister. I went three times, first they didn't show, second they objected to visitation rights and third it was thrown out (before getting to the big, deciding court hearing) Each time a different Judge, last one no empathy at all, believing all the lies & deceit, I would guess she wasn't a mother by her attitude.
Oh Jam8 how awful for you. I had a very close & special bond with my GD as she and her mother (my D) lived with me before her stepdad came along, I was cut out because he & his mother were jealous of our close bond and the one I thought I had with my D. I do try to forget my D&GC, but I just can't, I think about them all the time & that's the problem, if only I could forget!
Yes Flowerofthewest the anniversaries are very painful!
for you all, how our D can be so cruel to us their mothers, I really don't know, & the solution, I don't know that either, I've given up hope