I do not see my grandaughter very often as they live about 50 miles away. But am in pretty regular touch. Son Dil and GDD came over yesterday and we went for a meal. GDD was two last month and my worry is that she is regressing and neither of her parents are acknowledging it.
She doesn't speak at all - not even no! or mummy daddy.
She avoids eye contact or rather does not respond to eye contact.
She seems deaf even or especially to her own name.
And yet she is very bright with her iphone (I know!) - and plays a lot on ipad at home (and they always seem to have cbbeebies on...) I am not making a judgement here - it might well be the only time when GDD is happy and attentive..
Basically it seems to me all her stimulus is visual. She can spell and do complicated games on her gadgets and laughs a lot with them.
Other than that she gets attention by screeching and screaming and cying.
Today I realise there might be a problem and I am quite sad and feel helpless.
As much as I have tried with Dil I do not have relationship beyond a formal politeness with her. Any question I ask her is blocked. I did question whether GDD had hearing problems a couple of months ago - I thought that might be it but it was interpreted by Dil as some kind of criticism of her daughter. Dil is also 3 months pregnant - so one has to be v careful and patient. Unfortunately we have never had an easy relationship. Which is sad in itself.
So we are all pretending that everything is fine. But it is not. I suppose I just want to confide. I don't think there is anything I can actually do at this stage.
My son absolutely adores his daughter and doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong...not consciously anyway. Mum stays at home - she has started going to nursery a couple of mornings but other than they say she loves it I know nothing more. They both promote the idea that she is daddy's girl....and she enjoys a very physical rough and tumble relationship with him. All very affectionate. I don't know what else to say. But saying it might help
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