I know I have been busy moving and settling in to my new home BUT of course at the moment I still have concerns about / think about my DGS who is in the care system..
Everything I have been doing ie getting myself well , concentrating on ME rather than my DD's problems which gets me down and getting the house ready etc is so that I am nearly THERE ie able to have my DGS stay with me
Thing is SS are not responding to my calls , texts , voicemails or even e-mails now!
I have totally been left in the dark!!! :-(
I AM still interested in having him and am sure they know that but because of the distance between myself and my DD now I do not find out ANY information about what is happening re my DGS
I don't even know if it is going to court or what the outcome of the pre court meeting was!
I have asked for separate visitation due to the hostility and friction between myself and my DD now and I want the visits to be HAPPY visits for all concerned , they have not told me if this would be possible or sorted it out yet and I have only JUST found out because I read a txt from my DD that my DGS is being placed in foster care in the next few days!
I know NOTHING about the foster carer/s where they are , visitation arrangements there etc and no one is letting me know
My DD's txt was just matter of fact and am not sure if she wants me to have him anyway as she is still angry with me for being honest with SS and ''ruining her chances of getting him back'' but I don't agree with lying in order for him to be returned and SS aren't stupid
I just WISH the SW would contact me and keep me up to date rather than keep me in the dark , she knows I am not in communication with my DD so would have no information about the plans for my DGS and I only just about found out he is going into foster care about 10 minutes ago!
I already rang the respite centre re arranging separate visitation and they did not let me know either!!
I just sent a txt to the SW asking her to get in touch with me TODAY but we will see if that happens and I can't help feeling that even though I am doing my best everything I do is working against me ie asking for separate visits and missing the visit due to my move plus not wanting a visit full of friction or hostility in front of my DGS
First I was being told I was too close to my DD and now that I am not it is not working in my favour either!!!
At least if the SW informs me that new visits will start soon at the foster carers home , where it is and if I can visit him on my own that is a start and we can work from there but to not even know what is going on is unacceptable and is not good for my well being again as was getting to a really GOOD place and this just puts me into upset and stress and worry mode again! :-( :-( :-(
I just feel I am being pushed out of this whole process now!!!
Anyone else too wet for seed potatoes?