special days cause so much trouble

That's it in a nutshell rockgran

The irony is I've just had an indignant text from DS saying he tried to ring me to wish me Happy Mothers' Day and no one answered the phone '

I'd be happy with an old sock on Mother,s Day but I wouldn't want to be forgotten altogether. It really is the acknowledgement that counts and the lack of it that must hurt, I think. (Having said that - I'm glad I got chocolates!)

We love our mammies too, anya and love a party, but we don't all need to be told by Hallmark and the media that we must show our appreciation by remembering them on a certain day.

If people are getting upset because that day has not been marked, then they set too much store by outward appearances, and not enough by real permanent affection.

Sorry to disagree with many of the above, but it must be the Irish in me. We're a over sentimental race, love our Mammies and have an 'any excuse for a party' take on life

Every day is Card Manufacturers' Day. They issue posters to the card shops to make sure that we don't miss the latest reason to buy.

He-he, Elegran. Your cynical (and entirely true) post made me laugh. I usually get a card from each of mine (children, that is) but we don't go overboard. I, too, am very cynical of the likes of Mothers' Day, Fathers' Day, Aunties' Day, Cats' Day, Estate Agents' Day, Hospital Consultants' Day......etc etc.....goes off into rant.....all Americanised rubbish.......

(Just hope I have put the apostrophes in the right place or I will be in trouble.)

Elegran

I feel quite the same, Elegran and B.

Expressions of appreciation, love and thoughtfulness needs no special day. These are shown in the small interactions of kindnesses, respect and laughter throughout our lives.

There are FOUR threads on Mothers Day. Hallmark will be so pleased.

Just in case anyone thinks I'm boasting, please note that I said conscientious, not perfect. I'm a conscientious person, not a perfect one. I applied my conscientiousness to my mothering, as I'm sure a lot of others also did/do.

Exactly, elegran. I know, and so do my daughters, that I was and am a loving and conscientious mother. We don't need a special day to express our appreciation of each other. And, yes, appreciation works both ways.

Blessed is she that expecteth nothing, for she will not be disappointed . .

I never expect cards or flowers from my busy children with their full lives. I chose to have them and to bring them up, it was my pleasure and the fruit of my happy marriage, why should they feel guilty if they don't thank me regularly on a day instigated by the card manufacturers? And why should I dissolve into tears thinking myself neglected because they don't observe a man-made obligation?

Today I shall see DD2 and SiL, and I had a card from DD2. Neither of the other two ever remember Mother's Day. They don't love me any less, and they are not any less glad to see me. We meet on other days, and we don't backbite one another. That is more important.

DS and GCs all called yesterday, flowers and cards. The eldest 5.5 wrote her and sister's card beautifully which warmed my heartstrings.

It's nice to know they are all happily appreciating their own mummies.
to mummies everywhere. x

thatbags I don't have any expectations about Mothers Day. However it is a lovely feeling when DC make some sort of effort. I am very lucky with my three DDs who don't spend lots of money but show their gratitude and love in other ways.

We are smiling, duh!

Meaning...?

See we all put smilies ?

Thanks, anya. I shall. And the same to you

Have a lovely day ethel.

just had a lovely txt from DD wishing me a happy day, will see her later and DGD so I cant wish for more for myself but I hope she will pop in to see the other gran too. In the meantime Ive got a a squashy cake for them later.
However on the horizon Is easter looming and we will have arguments all over again .
Happy day to everyone

And a Happy Mothers' Day to you Bags

Happy Mother's Day everybody whatever you do

I only know mother's day is looming (doesn't it just?) because people put sob stories on gransnet. I gather this morning that it's today. I am often thankful that most of the world's trivia passes me by without my noticing it. Today is one of those thankful times. It's bliss to have no expectations. Try it sometime

Have a great time Galen..... That reminds me, I must ask DD whether she wants her archery kit fished out of the attic now she's moved house.

I've had a card from darling daughter and DGDs, I'm going playing with my bow and arrows!