Some good news at last!!! :-)

I think it's much better for him to come to you while there is still term time left. It will break you in gently! You will have school hours to rest and go over things. Would plunge you in too much in the deep end, to wait till the school hols. Good luck.

Try not to worry too much Nannynoo. It will all work out for the best in the end. It sounds a bit as if the foster carer is not quite ready to let go but perhaps it is not that and she is just trying to do the best for your GS. Probably best for your well-being to give her the benefit of the doubt and even if they delay until school breaks up, that is not very long now.

( Not worrying to place him with me lol worrying as to what the foster carer and school are saying!!! ) x

It is such a pity the school may not be on board , you would think if there was a little boy sobbing his heart out after being at his Nannys house and not wanting to go back to the foster carers house after it would touch their hearts BUT in all honesty I have always felt 'labelled' by the school / tarred with the same brush as my DD and I have never fully felt 'supported' by them

So if the school agree with the foster carer then the SW will listen to what they have to say , listen to me ie everything is so ready but hopefully listen to HERSELF about what she feels is best for my GS which is / has been to place him with me ASAP even though it is somewhat worrying!!

I am hoping my GS's new school simply see me as a Grandparent carer who is doing a great job! xx

I have to be patient , calm and carry on doing my bit , which I am enjoying doing anyway

Little man is ok and that is the MAIN thing xx

So everything in place , family etc are on board and every eventually catered for but am not too happy my DD and I aren't informed about things like my GS's sports day and school activities / plays and parents evenings!

I had to find out when his sports day was on the school website ( it's next week! ) and then let the foster carer know I would be coming along and told my DD when it was too as still feel it is important for her to attend things like this

Plus then the foster carer mentioned the parents evening coming up but if I hadn't mentioned the sports day I doubt she would have mentioned the parents evening , possibly not anyway

I don't think the school have my DD's current address but she said she checks her old place for post as she still has the key but nothing has arrived from the school but thank God for the school website I can check important dates on etc

The transition isn't going particularly smoothly at the moment and I think everyone is a bit frustrated and the SW is in the middle of it but I really do feel she will do what is best for my GS and I am pretty sure I will hear from her soon as have e-mailed her with my own updates on how things are going / are 'my end' x

Thank you all so much

Still waiting for a move in date

Preparing all behind the scenes ;

Have got a new little freezer as my fridge freezer one was too small for the both of us! So home cooked food to freeze for another day when busy , yoghurt ice pops etc yay!!

Got a soup maker as I love making soup and my GS loves soup too so for those winter evenings after school he will have something warming and healthy and it is good for those veggies in the fridge which if left would just get thrown! It also makes porridge , hot chocolate , smoothies and my special yoghurt and frozen fruit ice cream!

AND got an air fryer , not good to have fried food I know but for special treats SOMETIMES it makes healthy fries etc...

Also got a basic ironing board as my table top one isn't suitable for piles of ironing lol plus an enclosed air drying rack thing to dry his clothes as I haven't got a tumble dryer so great for winter months

Got TWO reliable alarm clocks as will place one in his room and in mine in CASE I fall asleep when snuggling him to sleep at bedtime ( It CAN happen lol )

Got him some new summer clothes too as have found the PERFECT summer playscheme for him and it is local , for children with special needs , just register him then ''turn up'' when required so can do lots of fun stuff together on the other days yet recharge my batteries on the days he goes to playscheme plus have found a local CRB checked babysitter who has Makaton , safeguarding and special needs childcare training and she will help out with giving me a break etc especially when family aren't always available ( as my self care is important! )

I think SS want me to mainly rely on family for a break / respite / babysitting etc but if or rather WHEN tired family aren't ALWAYS going to be available at the time so would rather have a back up plan and even pay someone reliable to give me a break when needed as it is SO important and not something it is good to PUT OFF ( and reach the point BEYOND exhaustion )

So most of the clothes are 'basic' inexpensive ones as they said don't put him in his best as they get mucked up with paint etc having fun basically

My doctor specialises in ASD so he will be PERFECT for my GS so will get him registered right away and my dentist is lovely too...

Everything in place , garden and home fully done , everything ready BUT the foster carer has made a complaint to the SW saying he is being removed at the wrong time and she strongly feels we should wait till school breaks up BUT he will be going to the same school anyway so there will be no disruption but she says it will disrupt him! She rang the school and got them on board too but the final say / main total say is the SW surely who wants him placed ASAP but the foster carer wants him to stay longer than the 28 days notice given whereas I think the SW would even pay her up to the 28 days and place him sooner! ( If that is even possible? )

We will see what happens...Why can't it all be straightforward though?!!

How lovely. some stability for the little one at last. It's going to be hard work (but I'm sure you know that) He is a fortunate little boy to have a Gran who didn't give up when the going got tough. You enjoy being together you deserve it.

Fantastic news nannynoo (have only just seen your post of Monday 8/6)! So very happy for you both. Good luck and keep us posted on progress please. So good to have a happy ending.

Excellent news nannynoo you must be so elated. You have worked extremely hard and had so much stress over this, you really deserve to feel so much joy. I hope you and your grandson have a wonderful life together. Lots of love. Xxx

That's wonderful, Nannynoo. To me, it feels like the sun has come out, it must be so much better for you. Hoping it all happens very soon.

Good luck with everything nannynoo. I hope the transition is smooth. Give your DGS a big hug from all the grannies who have been supporting you here in gransnet land. Good luck for the future and keep us up to date with your GS's progress.xx H.

The beginning of the new life together starting very soon
I wish you both a very happy life together x

This is actually REALLY HAPPENING!

The foster carer said the SW visited her during the week and told her the news , she has been going through my GS's life book with him and adjusting him to the change and preparing herself too which is good

Am enjoying this time of preparation , there is so much to do and adjust to as it will be a HUGE change but a HAPPY one!!

It literally feels like a 'weight has been lifted'

Oh my...... bring back my Bonnie to me....
My eyes are filling up ...in a good way.
Well done. I am so happy for you.

I have been LONGING to do so many things with him and now I CAN!

So the FUN part can really begin soon

There is a really good film coming out in July called 'Inside Out' which is really good for Autistic children as it is all about feelings and the film expresses the feelings visually , so was SO determined / hopeful to take him to see that film as little yet big things like that are so important to me

Plus I have a holiday 'pencilled in' for us during the school holidays! ... It is in a cottage on a farm in the beautiful Witshire countryside with an outdoor pool and lovely walks and village shops and a bakery etc and my dog can come too!

To RELAX and ENJOY our time together will be PRICELESS!! There is SO much to look forward to now ... The MAIN thing I love is even if it's at 6.30am in the morning to hear that door of my bedroom open and him fling back the covers and hop into bed with me for snuggles with a HUGE smile on his face , it makes me the HAPPIEST woman in the world!!! x

I used to sing this song to him with him on my lap gazing into my eyes at the contact centre ...

''My Bonnie lies over the ocean,
my Bonnie lies over the sea,
My Bonnie lies over the ocean,
O bring back my Bonnie to me.

Chorus:
Bring back, bring back, O bring back my Bonnie to me, to me:
Bring back, bring back, O bring back my Bonnie to me.

O blow ye winds over the ocean,
O blow ye winds over the sea.
O blow ye winds over the ocean,
And bring back my Bonnie to me.''

That's great nannynoo, my very best wishes to you & your little GS.

I would just like to add my very best wishes to you and your DGS nannynoo and hope that this is a wonderful new beginning for you both.

Abs wonderful news! Fantastic outcome for you both, all your hard work has paid off. I doubt you'll get any sleep tonight-you sound so excited!!

yeah yeah yeah!!!

That's wonderful news Nannynoo This has been such a dreadful time for you. I can't imagine not being able to look after my grandsons if anything happened to their parents. You've been so strong holding everything together

nannynoo

I am so pleased to read your latest news, long time coming but boy worth all the hassle. Wonderful news, soon have him tucked up in his own bed , what a thought!

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Hello nannynoo and a great big WELL DONE from me. Your perseverance has been unrelenting and I am so very glad it has paid off for you and your grandson. You both deserve to find happiness in each other.

That last post says it all nannynoo x

I'm very happy for you nannynoo. They've put you through the wringer but you kept with it and got the result you deserved.