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Suitability of Games

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Crystalgrandma Fri 07-Aug-15 15:17:00

My daughter and her husband had a very acrimonious divorce three years ago.The situation between them is still not good. They have three boys aged 10; 8 and six. They live most of the time with their mother , but stay five nights per fortnight with their father. All boys have TV and games consoles in each of their rooms at their father's house and appear to spend a lot of time in their bedrooms. Their father has now bought the eldest boy (10) the game "Grand Theft Auto" - which should not be sold to under 18's.
My daughter has not discussed this with their father- as from previous experience, he will tell her that it has nothing to do with her and create problems for the boys.
We have discussed with the children that this is not a suitable game and they understand our concerns - in as much as they can at their age.
I am really worried about the long term affect this may have on the boys.

Luckygirl Fri 07-Aug-15 15:33:51

He is entirely wrong to do this - though goodness knows what you can do about it without starting WW3

ninathenana Fri 07-Aug-15 17:49:55

I have the same concerns for my DGS who are 6and 3 and live with their father.
Unfortunately there is nothing we or DD can do without major upset. Which would have a knock on effect for the boys.

rosesarered Fri 07-Aug-15 21:46:35

My Grandson who is the same age, is shocked that a friend at school has the game ( GTA) it is definitely an 18 game, very violent.So many irresponsible parents out there, you can see them any day at the cinema, taking very young children in to see films that will frighten them.

rosesarered Fri 07-Aug-15 21:48:04

I think your daughter should talk to her ex and also to her son about not playing the game.

vampirequeen Sat 08-Aug-15 07:31:02

There is nothing she can do apart from discuss the game with her son. If I remember correctly from when I was a teacher a lot of the younger ones didn't understand a lot of the words and I was called a 'mother f***er' several times by children who, once it was explained how unpleasant the word was, were terribly upset.

This website gives a synopsis of the story but from what I've heard this is a very sanitised version. You need to bear in mind that it's full of swearing, violence, prostitution and has a pretty disgusting attitude to most women.

Those are the issues your daughter will have to address with her son.

Crystalgrandma Sat 08-Aug-15 08:51:33

Thank you all for your comments. My daughter has discussed this with her son. We just hope that he takes notice. We are not even sure if the father has put parental controls on the televisions or other equipment. I think in a twisted way he does it knowing it will upset my daughter.

vampirequeen Sat 08-Aug-15 09:50:43

As long as the boys feel they can talk freely to their mum or if the feel embarrassed talking to a woman, an adult male relative/friend. they'll be fine.

I remember an 8 year old being really upset and finally he told me that he had seen something on his dad's late night tv channel that was so disgusting he couldn't believe it. I suggested he talk about it but he said that he didn't want to tell me such things because I would be so shocked and upset. My heart sank. What had he seen? BDSM? Some sort of fetish..maybe foot or nappy? Orgy? I prepared myself as he said he needed to tell me but he'd have to be careful with the words he said.

Turned out he'd seen a woman with her breasts exposed and a man doing what men do with bare breasts. He described it as a lady with her top off and no bra with a man touching her and he must have been hurting her because she was making a funny noise. I reassured him that he lady wasn't in any pain and that, although it seemed horrible to him, it was actually quite normal for adults who are in love. OK I know they don't have to be in love but he was only 8 and in his experience loving couples don't hurt each other. He was horrified and swore he was NEVER going to do anything like THAT. He'll be around 20 now....I wonder if he's changed his mind hmm