I do envy those who had Grandparents and whose mothers and MILS were part of their GCs lives.
My MIL made her feelings on me and her GCs very clear - she really didn't want to know at all, despite living only 5 minutes walk away. I think she babysat once for two hours and was standing at the gate with her coat on when we returned (early evening, children in bed and asleep before she arrived, so not as if it was late!)
My mother told me when I when I was pregnant with DC1 on no account to expect her to look after the children at all, they were my responsibility and she didn't want to know. I was stunned and pretty upset. Even more so when she had my sisters' children at the drop of a hat from day one.
I guess you have to accept your MIL's stance and continue to engage with her. Perhaps she'll change as your dc grows up.
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