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Anyone else miss 'em like hell once they've gone?

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Waveney Tue 29-Dec-15 19:31:15

Thank you Bennan and Indinana. I rarely post, but had to share with someone as DD is very private. We are just waiting to hear the results of the scan. My eldest DD was brilliant with her little sister last night - she had two ectopic pregnancies and my beautiful GC are IVF miracles. Brennan, I wish your daughter well. I must comment on how brilliant our NHS is ( as if we didn't know!). Both NHS Direct and the para medics who came were amazing!

Bennan Tue 29-Dec-15 15:51:38

Dear Waveney, such a heart-wrenching thing to happen. My DD has had two miscarriages and still is trying. I hope your DD can recover quite quickly and you may have good news in the near future.?

Katek Tue 29-Dec-15 15:01:37

That's my far away ones gone home today-quite down now they've gone and a bit snappy with DH which isn't really fair. Have a day at home then off to see FIL followed by 2 days with dd2 and family. Have smallest dgs naming ceremony in early Feb to look forward to though-he's one of far away ones. Must book hotel as their house is going to be full. Trying to be positive here.

Indinana Tue 29-Dec-15 14:59:52

Waveney what a terribly sad ending to the Christmas for you all. And to have Sunday's lovely news shattered so soon afterwards must have been crushing for you. (((hugs))) and wishes for some good news during 2016 from your youngest DD flowers

M0nica Tue 29-Dec-15 14:48:22

DS and family left this morning and DD after lunch. The house is so quiet.

Despite DS and DDiL (but mainly DS) spreading chaos wherever they go and my very low capacity to tolerate chaos, I am missing them. DGC are just beginning to reach age of reason (8 & 5) and yesterday afternoon DGD and I retreated to the kitchen table and she made a lovely draw string skirt for herself with a little assistance and mastered my electric sewing machine very quickly. DGS did a project with DH. We do not expect to see them for another 6 weeks as they live 200 miles away.

DD actually agreed to differ from me on several topics, rather than just talking over me convinced she is right. So, I am missing them.

rosesarered Tue 29-Dec-15 14:39:10

Mine all live locally, so nice to see them but nice to have a quiet house as well.I do like a certain amount of company, but must have quiet times as well.A balance,really.

gransue60 Tue 29-Dec-15 13:55:36

We don't live near either of our DS s and families. One lives in Dublin and we saw them in late Nov for an early Xmas. The other lives an hour away very close to DIL parents. They stayed 3nights over Xmas. It was lovely and we feel privileged to share in present opening on Xmas day. However I do feel the dark empty nest syndrome when they leave even though half of me is glad to have my house and space back and being able to please ourselves!! We feel lucky we have good relationships with both DS s and DILs but we realise we are well down the pecking order and the DIL parents arrangements are considered before ours. We wait to be told what we are doing! We also are last to know if at all what the DGC (4) want for presents so the best ones are given by their parents which is right but also their other grandparents. It's something we have just had to learn to live with. When I see posts about not being able to see their DGC I feel lucky.

Waveney Tue 29-Dec-15 13:33:13

Had a lovely noisy Christmas with the two Gc who live two minutes away ( and sharing a quiet c -beebies session with the smallest one now) but feeling very down as my youngest dd and sil have left to go home. I learnt she was pregnant on Sunday and she miscarried at my house last night( first baby). So sad for her and didn't want to let her go home!

Luckygirl Tue 29-Dec-15 11:23:20

We were happy to have a bit of a breather really, although of course miss them very much. But local DDs have just rung up to say they are all walking up a local hill and would I like to come - oh, and could they come back afterwards to eat at my place! So, that bit of peace did not last very long! But we are thrilled to have them and will gird up our loins to face the fray!

We have not seen 3 of the GC this Christmas and of course missed them - hopefully we will get together sometime in January.

I am sure we will all settle back to the normal routine soon.

KatyK Tue 29-Dec-15 11:15:19

Well done jingl I have to confess I would have my granddaughter here every minute of every day if I could! She is 15 though and has other fish to fry smile although she visits often and is still very loving with us. She doesn't stay over very often now which I miss but enjoyed all the years that she did.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 29-Dec-15 10:26:06

I managed to wave them off cheerfully.

Must not plunge, must not plunge.

Brave smile

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 29-Dec-15 08:58:45

It's made me feel a bit better, putting this up on here. tchsmile

I'm not alone in it.

Gonna get house straight and... Onwards and upwards. (Even got a bit of sunshine at the moment)

Riverwalk Tue 29-Dec-15 07:14:35

My two arrive today for four days tchsmile

Right now the fridge is full and the place is tidy .... bring it on!

Wendysue Tue 29-Dec-15 04:55:12

Another one with mixed feelings - start missing them the minute they're gone but glad to have my house back, at the same time... love the peace and quiet and yet miss the noise...

gillybob Tue 29-Dec-15 00:22:12

We are the same. The house looks like a bomb has hit it when they are here but feels empty when they leave. silly old fools we are smile

ninathenana Mon 28-Dec-15 23:21:26

We had ours for 12 hrs today for the first time since October. That was the crumb that their father allowed tchsad
The goodbyes are rotten.

NfkDumpling Mon 28-Dec-15 22:06:31

Missing the two I was with, but preparing myself for having DGS, aged two and a half for a trial three day, two nights stay over New Years.

It'll be his first time with us on his own and he's 1) a runner with selective hearing and 2) considers sleeping a waste of time - especially in his own bed!

Apart from that he's adorable!

Indinana Mon 28-Dec-15 21:15:14

Both my DC and all my DGC are on my doorstep - my DS about half a mile away and my DD just under two miles. I am so lucky, and I never stop reminding myself of this. I shall miss my DD now that she's gone home and I know that's silly because I generally see her most days! But it's so nice to have her here in the evenings to share tv programmes with, and to see my baby GD first thing in the morning when she's all soft and cuddly and warm from sleep, That's what I miss when they go home sad

merlotgran Mon 28-Dec-15 21:04:26

The two DGSs who are literally on my doorstep will be home tomorrow.....Can't wait but I'm already missing the three DGCs we spent Christmas with.

Won't be seeing the two youngest DGCs until February half-term but it's something lovely to look forward to smile

morethan2 Mon 28-Dec-15 20:51:04

Another one here who hates the goodbyes. I love them so very much, they light up my life and when they go, I'm plunged into darkness for a short while until the routine of my ordinary life takes over. I'm lucky that I have four on my doorstep. Three little uns under 7 who are wonderful and an amazing 18 yr old , but I miss these two. Ah the price of love, but it's worth it.

Indinana Mon 28-Dec-15 20:19:00

but it's nice to relax to the gentle thrum of the washing machine.

Yes, that's what I'm doing, now that my DD, DGD and black lab have all gone home. The washing that is gently thrumming is what I found in my linen basket and on the floor of the bedroom she'd been using - bibs, bodysuits, sleepsuits, a little dress, tiny socks and tights, DDs knickers and socks. A pair of jeans will have to wait for the next dark load. hmm

merlotgran Mon 28-Dec-15 19:53:45

You miss them but it's nice to relax to the gentle thrum of the washing machine.

loopylou Mon 28-Dec-15 19:37:12

Me too jingl, DGS has only been gone for 4 hours.....
Not stupid at all, I get withdrawal symptoms after every FaceTime session too ?
I gues it'll be doubled when DGC due the end of May arrives.... Oh dear!

suzied Mon 28-Dec-15 19:28:41

Yes, but I also breathe a sigh of relief that they've all has a good time and I can reclaim my house! ( and begin the big clean up) .

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 28-Dec-15 19:19:52

My two GSs leave tomorrow for their New Year holiday after having been here since Boxing Day. And I'm starting to plunge. tchsad

tchhmm

So stupid!