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Daughter in law leaving

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grannyqueenie Sun 28-Aug-16 17:46:37

How sad for you and your family, you must all be feeling so shocked and upset by this bombshell. Legal advice for your son sounds like a good plan. All the best to you as you support him and try to provide much needed stability for your precious grandaughters

annsixty Sun 28-Aug-16 17:26:57

Not much help I know but we had a neighbour did this. Went off with a colleague of her husband leaving 3 young boys. He eventually married again and they had another son. She came back married and with a daughter who she paraded saying aren't I clever to have a girl? Karma struck when her 2nd husband had a heart attack and died when the girl was still small. The boys are grown up and married now but I don't know the relationship with their mother. All sympathy to you and all your family. Treasure the girls and make them as happy as you can

Margsus Sun 28-Aug-16 16:53:43

Of course you're right Ana it's horrendous for the children. Awful for their father too. How any mother can abandon her children is beyond comprehension.

TriciaF Sun 28-Aug-16 16:50:46

Such a sad situation, the little girls won't be able to understand it. But better that they should stay in the country where they've grown up.
To be practical, your son should get legal advice asap. He needs to get full custody, in case she changes her mind and wants to take them.

PRINTMISS Sun 28-Aug-16 16:47:47

I agree Kitty what a dreadful thing to do. How could any mother desert her children like that, my goodness, it would break my heart!

kittylester Sun 28-Aug-16 16:35:09

Those poor children and your poor son, Eileen, you are going to have your work cut out being strong and practical help for them.

It might sound harsh but she sounds a selfish girl.

Ana Sun 28-Aug-16 16:28:18

Not worse for those children though! How is their father going to explain why their mother has abandoned them?

It's all very sad, but all I can say is just be there for the whole family, as I know you will be, Eileen.

Margsus Sun 28-Aug-16 16:24:34

Oh Eileen how sad. You say that she's leaving the children behind, surely that means that you'll still have regular contact with them and your son? It would have been far worse if she was to take the little girls to Thailand.

EileenS14 Sun 28-Aug-16 16:15:11

Hi,Just joined.I was looking for some moral support really.My story is long so i will cut to the chase.My daughter in law who l have supported and loved for 8 years has decided to rekindle a relationship with a school boyfriend that she had when living in Thailand when she was 13 (she is Thai)and go back to Thailand get married have children. Well she has 2 children with my son 7 and 3 yearold precious little girls.... and she will be leaving them behind. How as a mother and grandmother that would die for them all(l'm sure all you readers would too) cope with all of this.My heart is brocken.