Gransnet forums

Grandparenting

The ups and downs.

(33 Posts)
morethan2 Sat 01-Oct-16 16:00:53

I'm just so worn out. I've only been home from my two week holiday for a week. Im just so anxious that I won't be able to cope with what's ahead of us. I spent some time with her poor mum last week while visiting the hospital and I was asking her how she was. I asked how she was sleeping and she she said she felt she'd never ever have another good nights sleep for as long as she lived. She's probably right. I can't talk about how I feel to anyone really because they've all got enough to worry about and my poor husband must be sick of me and I know he's worried about the affect all this is having on our son who on top of everything else got laid off last week. He's found another job but of course he has to settle in. What with work,our own household jobs and picking up children, shopping and the mass of stuff needs doing in such a big family household I'm not sure any of us will cope. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to have a heart attack.

Luckygirl Sat 01-Oct-16 15:02:35

CBeebies or a nice children's video. Needs must. Sit them in front of it with a packet of crisps (or, if you would feel better if it was something healthy, some raisins or sliced apple) and go and put your feet up.

A wet walk with wellies and umbrellas (little girls just love umbrellas!) might get rid of some energy.

Board games are just a source of strife with siblings - ditch them! (the board games, not the girls!)

It's rainy day and the children are missing their Mum - just go with whatever takes their mind off it all and holds their attention - the rules go out of the window in this situation. Just make life easy for your self. They won't get square eyes, but they might just be contented and happy.

Good luck with it all - how good that you are around to help.

Lona Sat 01-Oct-16 14:32:08

more than flowers it's heartbreaking when little ones miss their mummy or daddy. You want to make it better but you can only hug and love them. Then when the tiredness (yours!) sets in, it makes you a bit tetchy. I know that feeling well hmm
You can only do your best, hug them and make sure that you get some rest. Xx

Greyduster Sat 01-Oct-16 14:30:47

Thinking about you, morethan2. You're doing a sterling job with the girls; you have nothing to feel guilty about, please don't put yourself down. flowers.

Maggiemaybe Sat 01-Oct-16 14:17:53

Oh, morethan2, wishing you ((hugs)), sunshine and flowers. Be kind to yourself - you deserve it.

cornergran Sat 01-Oct-16 13:48:00

My heart goes out to you morethan,guess its going to be like this because it's how children, and sisters, are. Not sure where the guilt is coming from, if it's about being fed up with the girls then doesn't that happen to us all? You're humna, are doing so much, you must be tired and worried. Why wouldn't it get on top of you at times? Please don't give yourself a hard time, wine for later and flowers.

ninathenana Sat 01-Oct-16 13:43:54

This brought a tear to my eye. I feel for your GD's and for you.
Coping with two lively girls the extra work they bring and your emotions must be hard (hug) I hope your D is better soon wine wine flowers

morethan2 Sat 01-Oct-16 13:06:26

Some of you know my DiL is ill. She's in hospital at the moment so I've had my granddaughters. They are really lovely girls 7&4. The four year old was sitting behind the settee with my iPad 'chattering' to it and I noticed her kissing and then trying to cuddle it tight. I took it off her and asked what she was doing and she said "talking to mummy" when I looked there was a picture of her mummy taken some years ago. She said forlornly look it's mummy before she had a sore back. Honestly I wanted to cover her with love and kisses. The 7 year old has spent hours making cards with messages saying 'get better soon mummy' 'I miss your best cuddle' and 'I miss your lovely face mummy' l look at her innocent little face and want to make her mummy better. I got up this morning and my husband had tidied up and emptied the dishwasher before leaving for work at six this morning. I was so grateful. The downs are that the girls have been bickering all morning, the 4 year old has just started school full time this week and she's snotty( there are dozens of snotty tissues all over the living room) and irritable. She's spilled orange juice over the carpet. The older one spoilt the game of pairs and snakes and ladders. It's raining so I can't take them out. I'm sitting here and I can hear the four year old upstairs pulling things about I'm almost to scared to go up in case there's a mess. I think I might start to agree with the I don't want grandchildren thread. To top it all I feel horribly guilty.