I live in a block of flats, I dont own my property but most in my block do. When I moved here it was just me. Im quiet and keep myself to myself. The woman upstairs seemed ok until I became a kinship carer 3 yrs ago. Dgc is now 5yrs old. As most 5yr olds have tantrums about anything at all dgc is no exception. There is the added issue of the start in life which has led to some behavioural problems. Nothing ott though.
The woman upstairs, in her 50s, clearly believes nobody should make a noise, none at all , at any time! Dgc goes to bed at 7 & is up at 7, unless poorly. I make NO unreasonable noise after 7pm, I rarely have visitors even.
This woman (above me) bangs on the floor even if small person is playing & making a noise. When dgc is in full tantrum mode this woman has come to the door banging and shouting. On one occasion she shouted through the letter box 'we were idiots & she'd phoned police'!! This was 6.30pm & dgc was having a tantrum!
Earlier in the year I wrote her a note explaining that tantrums are normal and as there was zero noise during unsociable hours I felt her actions were unreasonable. She wrote back & said she'd had enough & would complain to letting agent & flat owner! Nothing came of it. The police didn't come when she said she'd called them (dgc heard her say that!!)
The icing on the cake was dgc was going out with ddo (her mum) yesterday eve. They bumped into the woman from upstairs & her friend. She started having a go at dd in front of dgc about a bedtime tantrum the eve before (that lasted 5 mins) . The 'friend' was goading the neighbour to 'get her' (my dd) . My dd retaliated, there was a loud heated argument along the street in front of dgc! My dd admits things got out of hand but it was instigated by this woman & her friend! !
I am confident that had it been me this woman would have said nothing.
For a bit of context this woman went to the people 2 floors above to complain about their 2 yr old crying at 10.30pm! She then went to the people in the flat in between her & the people she complained to to TELL them they have to complain about it too!
She is not exactly quiet but we live in a block of flats & you can't expect quiet 24 hrs a day. (She was banging around at 5.45am today)
I would understand if I had parties & kept unsociable hours & friends but I don't.
All this stress is making me ill, I have considered giving up care of dgc. If that happened she would be fostered & family would not be allowed contact!
Time for talking has passed, the relationship is at breaking point. Please if you've any advice I'd appreciate it. 💐
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