Hi, new here, and wanted to get some advice. My 1st grandchild, a beautiful girl is 6 weeks old. My oldest son, (have 4 25-35)and his wife are the parents. They live close by which is wonderful. They have been married 3 years.
I have always had a super relationship with my DIL, she is lovely and fun, and we have never had a cross word with each other.
Of course I am over the moon happy to have my first grandbaby. However, I have been very careful to give them space with the new baby, never show up without calling or being invited, and offer help at anytime they need it, all they need to do is ask. They are doing a great job as new parents.
Last night my DIL and son came for dinner and my DIL wanted to talk to me about something. She apologized to me as she thought she was rude to me last time we saw each other. I didn't even know what she was talking about, but assured her is was ok. She told me she is very anxious when I am around the baby, and she is not sure why. I was so sorry to hear that she was feeling that way. I never knew it or felt it. She says it is totally irrational, and that I have never even come close to making her feel that way before.
I assured her that feeling anxious, especially with hormones raging is common. She is also going back to work, a job she loves in 6 weeks and they have asked me to take care of the baby 2 days a week, which is great. She is of course feeling anxious about leaving the baby, which I totally understand. The baby will be with my son several days a week and me 2 days most weeks.
She knows that I will take wonderful care of the baby, that is not even an issue.
I guess I need advice on how to help her feel less anxious. We had a great talk last night and I reassured her she is a great mom, which she is, and I will do anything to help her feel better about the whole situation. She felt relieved after our talk however. Sometimes it is good to get things out in the open!
Thanks for your time in reading my post!
