Supporting granddaughter

Annie the embroidered cushion sounds a lovely idea and one I may copy for DGS. He loves watching the Peter Rabbit stories on tv and if he (DGS) is going somewhere new or doing something he doesn't want to but has to (such as get on a plane recently) he can be heard muttering the words of timid Benjamin Bunny 'Rabbits are brave, rabbits are brave'

Isn't it strange what we think we know? I always thought he was an Austrian!
So sorry about your worries but one ray of hope is that your GD will pass everything she needs to. It is a fact that boys tend to think they did better in exams than they actually did whilst girls are much more pessimistic. Convince yourself That she is very very pessimistic!
My sister rang me once to ask me to meet my niece after a uni. exam because she had made such a mess of it and would probably have to leave her course. She was heartbroken. She got a first two years later.

Dr Bach was born in Wales

I may move , I was born and brought up in Aberfan so am at home in the valleys, and there are many areas very near to Cardiff to choose from.

My daughters and grandchildren loved Pooh Bear, I still do. I am making granddaughter a cushion, cross stitching the following -

you are
BRAVER
Than you believe
STRONGER than
You seem
SMARTER
Than you think

& LOVED
more than you know.


'

Your posts have brought tears to my eyes, Annie. My heart breaks for you and your family. I will say a prayer for ygd and for dd, as well.

While I'm sad that your gc have had to face all this, I think it's wonderful that they have all pulled together, and that their dad has, too. Some families fall apart when this kind of thing happens. I'm glad they didn't.

And I agree that they are lucky to have you in their lives! How moving that they see you as their own personal "nurture room!" I can see why. God bless you!

Here's hoping ygd does well on her a-levels and that the school puts in a good word for her either way.

I can see you moving to Cardiff to be close to all of them :-)

can your granddaughter come and stay with you while her exams are on....just to give her the calm and support she needs to get through the exams?

Annie you are one in a million. Your DGC are fortunate to have you in their lives. I hope and pray all goes well on Monday with the school and,of course, in the exams. We're all rooting for you and your family. I was all ready to back Disgruntled up about the remedies but you're on to all that too! x

Annie I've sent some. Let me know if there are any changes and if/when you want more.
I'm sorry you've had to use Sweet Chestnut. Did Dr B come from near you? He must have been amazing.

Anniebach, no wonder your grandchildren love you so much. I hope your youngest DGD is feeling a bit more optimistic and I do so hope your DD gets enough help to bring her back to the fold. Such a sad situation but you are a very special grandmother. It sounds as if the teachers think highly of DDG (and you) and will do their best for her.

Auntieflo Individual teachers see their pupils as individuals, not as statistics fodder

Oh wGreat, youngest grandchild has now changed her mind and wants an 18th birthday party the week after exams finish , and she would like the same hotel as I arranged for her brother and sister's 18th .But her mother is not to be invited WW3 on the way

Disgruntled, please, please, please, my reiki practitioner has moved away

Yes I am Oak, and admit there has been Sweet Chestnut times for me too

Will be thinking of her and am sure all will be OK, but it doesn't help her having to get on and get through it. Thank goodness for you, her dad and sisters. I hope your DD finds healing some day.

Annie and (((hugs))) for you and (secretly) for DGD3 too I am overwhelmed by your strength and ability to keep giving loving support after so many sad events in your life. I hope you get support too for yourself xx

I do wonder where all this stress comes from for young people now, we had to get on with exams and the like and no mobile phones to text or ring home and most of us hadn't done much elseeither to prepare us.

I feel for you with family problems to cope with too but really you sound on top of it all although it is a struggle.

I don't think results are the be all and end all I have lnown many young people get places with poorer results than they had hoped for. One of my GD who didn't thinkk she would get it graduates this summer.

Don't let stress take over from excitement some younger people seem to have lost the joy in life tow hich they are entitled.

Oh Annie you're a star! I could have guessed you'd be Oak. Would you like me to send Reiki to the situation?

Disgruntled , she is taking Mimilus, Elm and Rescue , not daft or hippy dippy, I am a Bach Flower Remedy practitioner

And I am on Oak ?

Oh, Annie this is heart breaking. You are always to wise and supportive to others. This might sound daft and hippy dippy but there's a range of Bach Flower Remedies and one of them, Mimilus, is for apprehension of a known event, i.e. useful for exam nerves, driving tests and so on. It's not a placebo, it works on animals. (And even if it were a placebo, it might help and there are no side effects.) Each little bottle only costs about a fiver and you put a few drops on the tongue. As you say, the school will know most of what's gone on, and they will know not to let your granddaughter know you've spoken to them. GOOD LUCK

Children can bring so much joy yet so much pain. I feel for you, your daughter and for her children. You are doing a wonderful job with your grandchildren and they have both love and security from you and their father. From what you said I think your daughter loves them too, even if her children, understandably, may not recognise that.
The recent incident with your daughter must have been dreadful, she too is in pain. It must be so hard for you. I have a friend who was diagnosed as bipolar at the age of l3. She has had many struggles over the years, but as an adult now though still fragile at times, is so much better, and living a happy life, but alcohol added to the mix makes things much more difficult. I wish your daughter well, I hope she can get help and motivation to get through this, and I hope your granddaughter gets her wish to go to Cardiff. I have a feeling she will succeed.

Anniebach what a wonderful supportive GM you are, your post has brought tears to my eyes.Since being on GNs I've often read your posts for advise myself and seen how active you are on here. Sorry I have no advise,I think you and all the other lovely posters know what your doing in this difficult situation.I do hope someone is supporting you through this as you will need a hug at times to.

cornergran, you are right, the secretary said immediately - they have had a tough time.

Cherry, they are so easy to love, I adore them, when my daughter decided to leave she said Mum, please look after my children as you looked after me.

Iam, yes the school knows much, this is a Welsh market town, one high school, everyone knows everyone . My son in law attends all the PTA meetings and supports them in every way. When my daughter left home the girls raced to me and said Grannie we don't want to be taken to the nurture room can you stop them, so it was decided then my son in law was active in their academic work whilst I did the emotions side, they do confide in him, we share everything, even paying for private tutoring ! He does the cooking, cleaning, shopping , taxi service!
I do the reading King Lear and Sylvia Platt side and the Welsh Bac, he was devasted when my daughter left and couldn't discuss it with anyone.

The elder girl told me last week she thinks of her mother as dead, the younger one has more anger refers to her mother as Voldermort, for seven years they have had to face school classmates , when my daughter got on the front page of the weekly local newspaper - town councillor arrested for drunk driving. No shortage of friends! to tell them they mother said my daughter had been drunk in the local. Back last year my daughter phoned me distressed, she was walking through town and the youngest was walking towards her, she ran into the road, daughter thought she was playing chicken, no, she was avoiding her mother. So yes pride and shame Iam.

This is why the three are so close and protective of each other, it is so important the youngest goes to Cardiff to be with them. They want their father and me to move there too! Anyway I have spoken to the school , will know more on Monday, so it's on with the swotting .

If little one was to fail to get into Cardiff I will find a way for her to live there close to her sister. It is vital she gets to Cardiff this year.

My heart goes out to you and your family, annie. I don't know whether it's the right thing to be open with the school or not but I do know from working with struggling teenagers that they often share things they know should be passed on when they can't manage it for themselves. Trust your instincts, annie, they are sound and you know your granddaughters, they also know you and know you love them unconditionally. It also sounds as if the school have a very good idea already. If you decide to be open my guess is you won't have to say very much. Thinking about you all.

What a kind caring gran you are annie and proactive to boot.

I'm worrying about my first born DGS starting school in September he will be just 4 yrs old in July and he is a very shy little boy who didn't start talking until he was 3yrs & 2 months old. Chats away now though

Goodness knows what I will be like when exams and university are on the horizon.

I wish your DGD well
hopefully all will work out and you will have some good news for us in August.

Sorry Annie x posted with you there