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overweight 3 year old

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Cherrytree59 Sat 03-Jun-17 21:43:15

My DGS has his health/progress check this coming week he is 2.5 yrs (30 months)
So your DGC would probably have had a health check about 6+ months ago.

Grannyjacq1 Sat 03-Jun-17 21:29:17

Thanks for this advice. It has echoed my inner thoughts - that it's better not to interfere. Parents are vegetarians and I think that our grandchild doesn't really appreciate the sort of food they eat. Does anyone know if health visitors (are there any these days??) still do 3 year old checks?

Deedaa Sat 03-Jun-17 21:13:37

I really wouldn't say a word at this point. Once he starts school there will be less opportunity for for random snacking plus, hopefully, plenty of exercise. It's really not worth risking your relationship. If you stay friendly you'll be able to keep an eye on him.

Cherrytree59 Sat 03-Jun-17 20:50:18

Tread very carefully.
I had a very active 4yr old DD. (swimming, dancing classes etc)
My Mil passed a comment in front of my DD that she was looking a bit chubby (IMO she wasn't).
My DD has neither forgotten or forgiven the remark and it damaged her relationship with her grandmother.

aggie Sat 03-Jun-17 20:42:45

Unless your DS and DIL are deaf and blind they are aware of healthy weight , we are bombarded with information in the "Media" on healthy eating and the dangers of snacking and sugar consumption ! Please don't get involved ! You will find there is NO way to criticise parental modes and he will probably grow out of it as he gets older and gets to pre school

whitewave Sat 03-Jun-17 20:37:38

Oh! Dodgy ground that!!! I suppose it depends what sort of relationship you have with your daughter in law. I think that my GSs have always had too much sugar, but I have an extremely independent daughter. It's the way I brought them up, so can't really complain that I can't tell her how to run her life!!!

Grannyjacq1 Sat 03-Jun-17 20:22:30

Does anyone have any advice on how to approach the topic of an overweight 3 year old with his parents? I am worried that his long-term health may be affected and wonder how to tackle this without spoiling the relationship with son and daughter in law, neither of whom are overweight. His mealtimes seem to be haphazard, and he seems to be allowed to snack unhealthily. I don't want to be seen to interfere (we only see them once every 3 weeks or so) but neither of them seems to admit to there being a problem.