Will i lose contact with my grandchildren ?

I thought you were committed to picking up from school, serkeen hope will that fit in with your work commitments?
You must have an extremely tolerant employer to have been able to spend all those months in hospital with your husband too.

Oh Ellie Anne I feel for you sweety. but you need to understand that it is not that DIL parents are favoured it is just that Mums parents are usually the ones first called upon for some reason.

If I were you I would have a little chat with your daughter in law and actually ask, now that your parents are moving closer, will you still need me to take care of the children two days a week. Communication is the key in this situation and I feel that you are valued more than you think you are and a chat with your DIL or even your son will clarify things for you.

How lucky are they that you baby sit two days a week, my DIL asked this of me and I had to say no because I still work so I know my DIL would swap you for me any day

It is sad that you can not speak to your husband about this, but it is something that you can resolve yourself.

You can become the special granny that they don't see as often but when they do it's a Very Special Day.

Not having to put up with the day to day bits of childcare such as school runs and childminding during school holidays you can really go to town when they do visits and make it a memorable visit.

Sorry did not mean it to sound as if I was jealous. I really like the other gran though I don't have a lot of contact as we live too far away. And I know that the mothers parents often have more input. It's a mother and daughter thing and d il is very close to her parents while my son is a bit distant. Thanks for your input

I would assume that your present arrangement will continue! The other GP are working so presumably cant help with that bit. They can help at other times. If it does begin to feel that things are slipping away why not offer some other care ideas ...give the parents a cold free night away/day out, offer a day trip out for yge children etc. Do try not to be jealous of every time the other GPs have them ...or fearful! It wont help.

I'm sure that you have a wonderful relationship with your grandchildren and that can't just be erased, and neither will anyone want to. It is understandable that your daughter in law is closer to her parents than people who are not her parents. This does not mean that she wants to detach your grandchildren from you.

If they are moving closer it is probably because they live their child and grandchildren, just as much as you love your son and grandchildren. It doesn't mean playing favourites.

Jealously can be a very corrosive emotion though. If you are not careful you could be the cause of the very thing you want to avoid.